Location: British Columbia
Posted on: 01-02-06 15:01:35
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Orginally posted by Brown Girl
My husband and I have been married for 3 and a half years. Some would say we should have had a couple of kids already, but luckily for me, my family (esp. inlaws) have not been too pushy in that department. Until now.
However, having recently gone to a couple of friends' baby showers, my hubby and I could not help having yet another discussion on having a child. Truth is, we are too selfish. Maybe we will have kids one day, but for now, we have decided that we are too selfish to have a child. We enjoy our lifestyle that we have right now, we enjoy a certain standard of quality in our lifestyle and are not ready or willing to give it up just yet. I am of course speaking financially - I am not saying having kids will not fulfill us in other, spiritual ways.
Is it selfish to want to maintain a certain standard of living by choosing not to have kids?
I dont think so.
I think it is personal preference.
Do you go to other online sites for childfree etc? I think they are very helpful and can give you a lot of food for thought.
I know how you feel though. I enjoy the freedom.
Do you worry about old age?
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~ Morning rain
read some intresting posts on here.. some of my views..
I do agree with some of u on here that if u dont have kids then u can enjoy ur freedom.....but if anyone is thinking of planning kids..then they should do it early in their life..before they turn 30..[of course circumstances allowing them]...so that when u reach ur retirement age..ur kids r 90% settled down..and u dont need to worry..whereas...if u have kids very late..in ur late 30's or early 40's...then there r chances that when u retire..ur kids r still in their universities..
we have a 4 yrs old son...and my son was born here in toronto..we did go thru a very rough patch during the first year...as we had no one here..except 2-3 friends..and no family...many times we thought of sending our son back home to my parents and they were also insisting on it.. but we decided against that...
what is the use of having kids if u cant raise them up on ur own...how many people here on CD have parents who have raised 4-5 kids... and how many of u feel that their parents didnot bring them up properly.. did they not want freedom??? what would have happened if our parents also thought they same as we do now.. [mind u...am not in favour of having 4-5 kids...2 r enough...
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the one good thing I like about being a parent is this..whenever I come home from work..no matter how tired I am.. as soon as I enter my home..my son comes running to me..and gives a such a nice hug.. and u forget all ur worries for that one mintue..how many parents on here agree with me???? [now there r some days when he is so naughty and cranky that I feel why did I have kids]
enough for now waitign to hear more comments..
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Amit Shah
Financial Advisor
Cell : 647-296-2609
Being childfree or not is everyone's personal choice. it depends on many things.
I am childfree and never regreted it. My personal view is that if you have a child then you should be devoted to parenthood 100 %. If you cannot then there is no point bringing somebody in this world and not give attention to the child.
Location: British Columbia
Posted on: 03-02-06 12:48:49
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Orginally posted by lana2005
Being childfree or not is everyone's personal choice. it depends on many things.
I am childfree and never regreted it. My personal view is that if you have a child then you should be devoted to parenthood 100 %. If you cannot then there is no point bringing somebody in this world and not give attention to the child.
I agree. Im not sure if Im childfree or not, but it must be difficult for you to be childfree and what do your family member do? do they pressure you?
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~ Morning rain
As i mentioned, I donot regret being childfree. I am childfree by choice. I have been away from India since I got married. I have been wandering and worked in many countries since I got married. My mother was somebody who NEVER pressured and said do what you think is right. And the contact with other relatives was mainly on long distance phone calls and one week a visit per year. They really did not have time to pressure. In that sense, i have been lucky.
Hey Rain
Go for it...having a 3rd gen CD is good to keep this website going...typically any couplt wud like to have at least one kid...unless it is not feasible medically...of course adoption is divine...I have lots of respect for people who adopt children.
Lana, being childfree for 15 years is amazing and demands extreme courage and determination...guess it becomes a way of life after a few years.
Lana, being childfree for 15 years is amazing and demands extreme courage and determination...guess it becomes a way of life after a few years.
I am new to this chat board. So just curious how you came to the number 15 i.e. I am childfree for 15 yrs. By the way the number is wrong. Trying to find out if you anubody can see my profile.
