Posted on: 13-01-04 14:54:27
Dear desis
Don't you think we are killing our feelings,our kids, real happiness of our life in canada? I think we are for sure.
I been in canada for last 10 years. The first few years after I migrate to canada were not so bad, because it was a new challenge,so many new things to learn , settling down in canada,find a job, buy a home ,buy the furniture and electronics for the home etc. But even after I had everything I could not buy inner happiness.
Right now I have everything in my home.I can buy what ever I want but I don't want to .I am so fed up with this canadian lifestyle. We forgot the true meaning of life after we came to this robotics country.In this country life is just work, eat and sleep. Enjoyment is nothing but just go to the mall,buy something for the kids,or may be get together once a month if you have some real friends.In canada everybody has lots of time but they want to show other people that they are very busy in their own life.What they are busy for watching movies or go for shopping ?Common that are the things that you do to keep yourself busy even if you don't like to do it. And in winter time the home feels like nothing else but a well equipped jail.Kids don't do anything but just watch tv, sit on computer and when nothing to do then sleep. In our back home when we were small we didn't even know the word stress,but in canada even small kids have a stress too and that we can read on our kids eyes.
For last couple of years I was thinking why we are here for? Why people who are well settled in India or any other country they want to migrate to canada.They can get the simmiliar life style or even better in their country.And even if we don't get some services in our country we have so many other good things in our country that we are never going to get here.Even if I would make less money than here I don't care . At least me,my husband and my kids won't have a stress in my country, and that will make me happier than live in this sofesticated country.
I am thinking of going back home and try to settle down in my country. And you can take my words on it that after ten years from now more and more people will return to back home .
So what's your opinion about my decision to return backhome?
I will be happy to recieve any suggestions,comments or advice.
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Orginally posted by hindustani
But even after I had everything I could not buy inner happiness....
I will be happy to recieve any suggestions,comments or advice.
Here are a few thoughts.
Inner happiness can be found only by feeding the inner you...am i right? Isnt this true wherever you are? I have many friends back in india who are unhappy inside too. If feeding your inner self can be accomplished easier in India you should go back for sure! Are you sure you are not looking outside of yourself to nourish the inner you? Can your surroundings and the people outside fill the void that you feel inside? Money and material things were never designed to fill that void, were they? Incase you are not doing it already, what about volunteering to help others if you have time? Can that help? A few on this board are trying to put together a similar initiative. Why dont you join us?
Why are the kids watching too much TV? Are you not spending time with them? I try to spend time as much of time I can with my kids. We actually enact plays from the books I read to them. Craft, painting etc is some of the things the wife and i do together with them. We go to the library. Make snow angels in the back yard. Talk a lot to each other. Have a lot of fun on weekends which is our time together. Children can also take music classes or other art classes. We love spending family time with each other and are quite adamant in not spending this time any other way.
In my house the TV is in the basement. Another tv which was in the bedroom is also moved to the basement and not hooked on. I've also cut cable(i still get it ...damn them).
India is changing too and along with the booming economy all the problems here will be found there too. Are you sure that, going there, is what you actually need to do?
Maybe you are missing family there and/or more people who think the same way you do? Are you sure that, even after 10 years, you are finding it difficult to adapt to a new lifestyle and that is the not the actual reason you want to go back? I guess its upto you to answer the questions for yourself. After all, it is *your* soul that knows what it actually needs. I just wanted to share my thoughts with you since you asked for them
Dr.Phil has to leave now
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Hi there:
What is Inner Happiness ...?
Its is the state of mind.
Are you sure that you will be find inner happiness going back ?
We human beings are so focused on what it is we think we want, we have forgotten what it is we are really seeking. We seldom ask ourselves “What is it really want?” When we go deeply into this question we find a common theme behind all our desires. We want to feel better and call it with different names -- joy, happiness, inner peace, satisfaction, fulfilment, bliss, contentment, ease, well-being -- but however we describe the quality of mind we seek, the underlying motivation is the same. And you are quite sure that u will be able to atain all this in India...
Our error lies not in seeking inner peace, fulfilment, happiness or joy, but in the ways we set about finding it. Our cultural conditioning has trapped us in a materialist mindset and once u learn to stay away from it, u have taken the first atep towards the happines you are looking for. This is the “virus” that has infected our minds and moving from one place to another will not get u inner happiness.
As Abraham Lincoln said "You can make yourself about as happy as you make up your mind to be."
And finally Happiness is a habit. You can train yourself to automatically live with more happiness by asking yourself this question," What will really make u happy, here or there ?"
As jake3d mentioned "Inner happiness can be found only by feeding the inner you "
My inner thoughts.
biju
It is the same thread at 2 different places
http://www.canadiandesi.com/read.php?TID=1623
http://www.canadiandesi.com/read.php?TID=1625
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Dear you will be so surprised to hear that I left a well settled home and career to come and settle here.Well I am no preacher but out of my experience of life I can say that the best life is of a dog. He eats when he wants to ,he sleeps when he wants and does other things also whern he wants to.But as we are humans ,we like to tinker with the natural systems. We try to eat when we are not hungry,sleepp when we are not sleepy and so on.
Life is exciting in others company.Try to get involved with family,develop some hobby and try to struggle for something. May be you can take classes for a new vocation. There are a certain group of people who get the regular mundane things of life pretty fast. These people then have to work extra hard to keep them busy and occupied.
Watch your weight ,set some target and if you can achieve that by certain target days it will feel great. All these things sound good when you are young but surprisingly all these apply to old age also. We must understand that life is a package. You get some and you lose some. Inthis country one has to experience terrible loneliness and more so if your kids are grown up and are not very dependent on you.But this is life.
May be try to get into spiritual things or take up a pack of cards and get into a group . Loneliness will bring depression and these concepts of moving to India will result in temporary exultations and very soon you will outgrow that excitement.May be if you have money try to collect a dollar for the poor people every day and I mean collect and not accumulate. Try various things and keep interacting because life is a biological bubble and till it bursts all these issues will be there.
Happy living and enjoyment.
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Ash
I do not agree that in Canada, there is no life.
Life is a philosophy. One has to find it in himself and his surroundings. If you keep busy, organized and work for getting what you really need. You will get. Efforts are necessary. If you are looking for fun, friends, social gatherings, money, reputation, acclaimation whatever, you have to work hard.
Here in Canada I have
good education for my kids
no corruption in goverenment offices
no tax problems (harrassment at the hands of ITO)
good friends to have regular and frequent gossips, get together, sharing moments
healthy environment free of pollution etc
no power shortage, no water polllution etc and so many.
After all it is your thinking, If youthink positive you will feel happy. If you start criticising you will feel lonely more and more.
You know Criticism is the easiest thing to do. I am not criticising. However I do advise you to accept everyplace wherever you live to accept in totality. Everywhere you will find positive as well as negative points. In canada there are various problems we have to face for exxample
shortage of doctors
parking charges too high
job market too low
low recognition of Indian Education
But as I mentioned earlier, there are positive things as well. When I decided to migrate, I did for the good education of my kids. So it was solely mydecision and I do not regret at all. I am quite happy although there is a need of adjustment in some areas. No problem, down the road it is helping me to make me more strong and strong to fight against the odds.
So cheer up. If you decided once for all, best of luck. conveymy regards to my beloved country and countrymen.
