Posted on: 19-12-14 13:25:40
The preach is back !.
A recent incidence has changed my outlook in life.
My colleague of 6 years who used to share with me all the office gossips and general news everyday was complaining to me on a Friday that he was working too hard and needed a vacation.
He had sold his condo and bought a detached home in central mississauga for 600,000 was working his butt off to pay the mortgage. His wife was a housewife and his kids are in grade 12 and 10. His aged parents were living with him.
As long he was in the condo he went skiing with his family every season, followed by gambling trips to Las Vegas. He also had Saturday morning 18 hole golf game.
Once he moved into the detached home everything stopped to pay for the home.
I said bye to him on Friday and as he did not show up to work on Monday morning we enquired to our boss. We learnt that he had felt dizzy and had collapsed in the bathroom while shaving and was rushed to Trilliumhealthcenter. They learnt that he had a Brain hemorrhage and was in coma.
The family begged the doctors to operate to which the doctors flatly refused.
He was in come for nearly 3 weeks and died in the hospital.
He as 50 years old.
The moral of the story is " live life as it is the last day on earth" .
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Sunny Leone a true Canadian DESI now back in India !.
That's sad! Really unfortunate, to say the least. I am sorry for your and the family's loss.
Often, in pursuit of 'bigger and better', we forgo the tiny happiness that matter more in life. Examples, like leaving office on time to be with your family and enjoy time in the evening.
Just keep accumulating wealth and when it comes to using it all, either it is left to the kids or somehow meet the same fate as this unfortunate friend of yours. I have seen so many incidences of rich relatives that died before they start seeing the fruit of their accumulated wealth in their late 50s. One of them was my dad's first cousin, who worked his ass off his entire life and when eventually he built the house of his dreams met with an accident last year, when he was not even 60. Another one, a living example is a friend of mine who is getting fatter by the day, leaves office late just so he could unmortgage his $600,000 house as soon as possible.
Why people mortgage their life for bigger house, and especially kids' weddings is out of my tiny/minuscule/low IQ mind. Kids education and your own happiness 'right now' coupled with a nest egg should be the utmost priority, in my opinion.
It's sad, but do we ever learn? Please simplify your life, as it's entirely in our own hands. There's no super or hidden power that could guarantee it.
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Originally posted by Vandematram
The preach is back !.
A recent incidence has changed my outlook in life.
My colleague of 6 years who used to share with me all the office gossips and general news everyday was complaining to me on a Friday that he was working too hard and needed a vacation.
He had sold his condo and bought a detached home in central mississauga for 600,000 was working his butt off to pay the mortgage. His wife was a housewife and his kids are in grade 12 and 10. His aged parents were living with him.
As long he was in the condo he went skiing with his family every season, followed by gambling trips to Las Vegas. He also had Saturday morning 18 hole golf game.
Once he moved into the detached home everything stopped to pay for the home.
I said bye to him on Friday and as he did not show up to work on Monday morning we enquired to our boss. We learnt that he had felt dizzy and had collapsed in the bathroom while shaving and was rushed to Trilliumhealthcenter. They learnt that he had a Brain hemorrhage and was in coma.
The family begged the doctors to operate to which the doctors flatly refused.
He was in come for nearly 3 weeks and died in the hospital.
He as 50 years old.
The moral of the story is " live life as it is the last day on earth" .
You are saying as if the brain hemorrhage is caused due to his move from condo to a detached house and he would have been safe otherwise which is not correct. Brain hemorrhage has nothing to do with this.
Agree it is not a good idea to stretch beyond your means. Rather live and enjoy within the limits and avoid unnecessary stress.
What about death caused by accidents, terrorism, mugging etc that you can't even predict? You can't be afraid of death and live life as if it is your last day every day. I would say The moral of the story should be "live life to the best of your ability without worrying as if it is the last day on earth". Really unfortunate, to say the least. I am very sorry for your and the family's loss.
Well, you just wrote how you felt. After all, this is a public forum where we often write how we feel or perceive a thing, this isn't a place to publish a counsel.
Anyhow, as you grow older you are ( at least I am ) seeing more and more shocking things happening to people around, one day it could happen to us, no body can stop. But almost all of us are seeded with the ability to forget or switch to back burner as we move on unless in case of an offshoot.
Upgrading a house or car ( I did recently), I just drew my own baseline. Told wife in case fate hits the fan, worse come worse we lose everything we have and can always squeeze in to basics (many understand the semantics behind this in this country, the atmosphere is conducive enough). But on the other hand, things continue to go well, may be a matter 5-10 years, there could be a decent savings sitting with me plus had the moments enjoyed.
I guess, it is very acceptable to have resources to survive up to six months in case the tap stops.
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The cowards never started,
The weak died on the way,
Only the strong arrived.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_yK1i9cLAMM
Thats really sad to hear.
We all sometimes push ourself too much.
Chhotaa kar ke dekhiye jeevan kaa vistaar
aankhon bhar aakaash hai, baahon bhar sansaar
Leke tan ke naap ko, ghoomay basti gaanv
har chaadar ke gher se, baahar nikalay paanv
छोटा कर के देखिए जीवन का विस्तार
आंखों भर आकाश है, बाहों भर संसार
लेके तन के नाप को, घूमे बस्ती गाँव
हर चादर के घेर से, बाहर निकले पाँव
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DELHI INDIAN
Birth, marriage and death is not in our hands. Destiny is already written. Now even brahma cannot change ur destiny so, when time comes leave gracefully. Till then, enjoy balanced life with ur loved ones and friends.
In case of condo to detached house and hard work to pay the mortgage and wife not working (house work and looking after children is full time career in itself ) and parents with him seems to be a burden according to you (parents never asked for big house nor the wife and kids). Thy would have been happy in a small home too. 
I alwys tell people that trick to happiness is to live within ur budget and have a balanced life. You don't need millions to be happy. some people find happiness in spending 5000 in 5 star hotel whereas some people like me find happiness spending $10 with children in Tims or country style.
For me memories and happy moments counts along with growth of children. You can earn money anytime but you won't get ur children growth anytime. So mke correct choice and gv priority to important things in ur life.
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Revenge can be bitter sweet, but if u sit back and watch, KARMA can be pure entertainment.
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Originally posted by febpreet
That's sad! Really unfortunate, to say the least. I am sorry for your and the family's loss.
Often, in pursuit of 'bigger and better', we forgo the tiny happiness that matter more in life. Examples, like leaving office on time to be with your family and enjoy time in the evening.
Just keep accumulating wealth and when it comes to using it all, either it is left to the kids or somehow meet the same fate as this unfortunate friend of yours. I have seen so many incidences of rich relatives that died before they start seeing the fruit of their accumulated wealth in their late 50s. One of them was my dad's first cousin, who worked his ass off his entire life and when eventually he built the house of his dreams met with an accident last year, when he was not even 60. Another one, a living example is a friend of mine who is getting fatter by the day, leaves office late just so he could unmortgage his $600,000 house as soon as possible.
Why people mortgage their life for bigger house, and especially kids' weddings is out of my tiny/minuscule/low IQ mind. Kids education and your own happiness 'right now' coupled with a nest egg should be the utmost priority, in my opinion.
It's sad, but do we ever learn? Please simplify your life, as it's entirely in our own hands. There's no super or hidden power that could guarantee it.
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There are two people that I remember who said exactly as you are describing here. It was also said in a context.
There are TWO people who have said similar things..
1) Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today. ~James Dean
2) Live every day as if it were going to be your last; for one day you're sure to be right. ~Harry "Breaker" Harbord Morant
I remember one, but the next one there, I must find to read and get to know.
But the right thing that you want to say could have been "CARPE DIEM."
That would have carried a lot of weight.
When I reached Canada, and during the first fall when I saw the first few flakes flying in the air, I looked up into the ether and observed how beautiful the flakes looked with myriad of shapes floating beautifully down and I grasped one from the air and said to myself "I have it in the palm of my hand", just to realize that it slowly disappeared to become just a drop of water.
From then on I observed the saying which runs like this " TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF MY LIFE". What you will see in your future is a surprise and a question mark. ? ! What you are enjoying now is the Present.
Yes you are right, LIVE IT UP.
FH.
Thank you for giving us a clear picture of your friends life. I am glad that he did get to set his family up and enjoy it for a few days, weeks may be, but passed away in a coma with Brain Aneurysm. I feel sorry for his family and also his Parents who lost their off spring, need less to say it was not anticipated, and an accident. fh
