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Anyone out there from aamchi mumbai and proud to be a maharashtrian. If so lets meet. Send me a mail and we can decide on something soon

 
rkanchan

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Post ID: 51904 04-07-05 22:43:13
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I don't understand why we Indians try to only mingle with our own 'groups'. Can we not be happy to just meet Indians?

Interests should be more of a factor than where you are from.


 
Post ID: 52056 07-07-05 01:44:05
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chandresh
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Orginally posted by rkanchan

Anyone out there from aamchi mumbai and proud to be a maharashtrian. If so lets meet. Send me a mail and we can decide on something soon



I am neither from Mumbai nor aMaharashtrian - but live in your area (Concord) and feel you might not be too far away from my house. In case you are interested in making friends with a middle aged :( couple with two teenage children - we are here!

In the same area we have a few friends of which two families are Gujarati, one Rajathani and another Bihari and it is a good mix really!

Being a Maharashtrian, are you interested in music and do you sing?

Chandresh

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Post ID: 52072 07-07-05 08:29:11
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DiogenestheCynic
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I don't understand why we Indians try to only mingle with our own 'groups'. Can we not be happy to just meet Indians?

Interests should be more of a factor than where you are from.



I too find this extremely stupid! Somehow this feature is a trait with Indians only.

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Post ID: 52080 07-07-05 09:38:42
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alexm
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I too find this extremely stupid! Somehow this feature is a trait with Indians only.



Right on....perhaps this is a reason (our failure to assimilate into Canadian society) why we Indians do not achieve the success we dream of when applying for immigration?



 
Post ID: 52085 07-07-05 09:47:32
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rkanchan
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Hello All,
OK now let me put an end to all this rage going on. I have nothing against non-maharashtrians. In fact almost all my friends (and believe me I have a huge friend circle) are non-maharashtrians coming from all parts of India EXCEPT Bombay. This was the only reason I wanted to make a few more friends who were from bombay and were maharashtrians so that we would have had something common to share.

Chandresh,
Yes I would be really happy to meet with you and your family. What are your whereabouts in Concord. Let me know....

Kanchan


 
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chandresh
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Contrary to your views, I feel it is perfectly normal to to want to stick to your own group - while not harming/negating the desire of others to mingle with other groups. Some of the very basic reasons (and it is not an exhaustive list) are:

1. You can speak your mother tongue - which is a soon vanishing, sadly though and people realise it very late. It is very difficult to find a person who is not Maharashrian/Gujrati/Bengali but can speak these languages. So when you mingle more and more with 'other groups', you tend to slowly lose touch of your mother tongue, and it passes to your children, who cannot speak to you in your own language! (And people repent it when the children grow up)

2. Speaking in your own language also leads to being able to share the jokes which are specific to a language and a geographical area and something you have grown up with. Not being able to enjoy that with friends of 'different' group can at times be a frustration. Imagine a local Canadian speaking in a group where everyone but only you are not able to catch on the pun/fun in 'small talk', or even in office communication. Or imagine a Punjabi trying to explain a particular incident/behaviour very specific to Punjab and very close and dear to a punjabi's heart to a Hungarian who is just not able to get the emotions of the narration!

3. While variety is the spice of life, not being able to have your own food is very frustrating. How if an vegetarian hindu has a french guy as friend and this vegetarian is not able to touch a thing on the dinner table at the french guy's house - or vice versa. I have seen many a Sindhis who consider Monday as the worst day of the week because their family tradition is to be vegetarian on Mondays. So if the Sindhi comes to my house for dinner on Saturday, he will have to (against his wishes and with lot of frustration) eat vegetarian food which he detests.

4. Imagine a group that I mingle with is comprising of Indian, Chinese, English, French, Arab, Russian, Nigerian, Brazilian. While it is variety and spicy, who will my daughter perform a rajasthani dance with which she saw at my cousin's wedding and liked a lot? It is easier said than done that the 'others' daughters will be able to perform this dance with her.

5. What if you wanted to just find a shoulder to cry on due to family problems realting to India and traditions that you must follow - how will the 'others' be able to understand that.

And so on and so forth...........

And by the way, how can you guys say it is only the Indians who do such thing???????????? Have you actually LIVED a major part of your lives with more than one Group which is not Indian and have experienced first hand that they do not stick to their groups? In my opinion, every ethinicity does it.

Chandresh
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Orginally posted by alexm

I don't understand why we Indians try to only mingle with our own 'groups'. Can we not be happy to just meet Indians?

Interests should be more of a factor than where you are from.



I too find this extremely stupid! Somehow this feature is a trait with Indians only.


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Post ID: 52109 07-07-05 17:28:18
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alexm
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Most of the reasons you state seem to be reasons to remain in India. Why do we feel so scared to move outside of our circle of comfort?

You talk of food as an example....how many people even try other cuisines? The positives in going to another country is to experience the culture (food being one of the facets) there, not just do pot-luck parties where families cook their sambar/mutton rogan josh or what have you.


 
Post ID: 52145 08-07-05 08:27:07
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crenshaw
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Why do we feel so scared to move outside of our circle of comfort?



I reckon that very few Indian immigrants immigrate to experience a different culture. Once here, dietary restrictions and cultural taboos also have an effect (although I have known vegetarians that work around this very well).

This isnt unique to Indian immigrants though. Less educated southern European immigrants also rarely venture out beyond their own linguistic groups.


 
Post ID: 52146 08-07-05 09:08:31
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chandresh
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Orginally posted by alexm

Most of the reasons you state seem to be reasons to remain in India. Why do we feel so scared to move outside of our circle of comfort?

You talk of food as an example....how many people even try other cuisines? The positives in going to another country is to experience the culture (food being one of the facets) there, not just do pot-luck parties where families cook their sambar/mutton rogan josh or what have you.



My family is one which ventures out to try all kinds of food - and we have enjoyed it so far. However, for many families - who have been extremely successful in various sectors of life (job, friends, position, social circle, mingling with other nationalities etc.) would not try out on food atall. Infact, an hour after writing this post I am leaving for camping with two families which are such (great in all respects and have lived in atleast two other countries before coming to Canada) - would not touch anything non-vegetarian with a ten foot pole.

On the other hand - I live in Concord - in the east we have Thornhill - predominently Jewish area (more than 75% I think as confirmed by recent article in Toronto Star) - most of the shops cater to their food (Kosher), they have synagogs there, and other things related to their ethinicity. On the west is Woodbridge - an area pre-dominently Italian with restaurents, grocery shops, businesses etc full of Italian taste. Slightly south (not too close but not too far) is jane/Finch which is pre-dominently a 'black' (so called) area where you can see dozens of similar ethinicity people crossing the road at the same time. All these people I don't think are Indians (correct me if I am wrong) - but they follow what you say is an Indian trait and true only if you were living in India. Or is it they was eye-washed by Indians????

Similarly, the Richmond hill area, west of Yonge is full of two communities - Russians and Iranis. I do not think even they are Indians in any manner. Do you have an explanation for that??

Chandresh

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