Posted on: 06-02-07 22:29:54
You are not ruined. You were in an abusive marriage.. now you are back in India with folks that love you.. why would you even come back to country where you had
bad experiences and heart-break? Why would you even expect application to continue after your marriage was basically dissolved? seems to me you married the guy for immigration and then prince charming turned out to be count dracula.. don't wanna say it.. but serves you right..
Now get back to doing things the right way.. come to US on your own or apply from India.. and try to get things you earn instead of using green-card marriage way for once..
I definitely empathize.......
BUT;
If you are the 'TYPES' to get into a good IT job in the US, pray, tell me (us)....., WHY are you sooooooo keen in entering Canada ????? That too, back to the person in CA who was actually trashing you ??
Why don't you just get back to the 'US of A' from desi land & find another (Job & ) male ???? Just forget the past and start afresh.... I know it doesn't sound VERY desi, but, THAT'S the way to go, my friend...
I'm sure you'll find a MUCH better person who can understand your situation & needs.
I read all these replies, thanks a lot for your help.
I am very qualified person with most of my education and work experience in US for me to get immigration to Canada is not hard but it was never on my agenda, I wud have rather been in US any day else I wud have applied for myself. It’s just that after I married him, I wanted to be in Canada. Well, now as things turn out I had to leave everything i worked for in US. I feel like this marriage is not only taken my trust in love and marriage from me but also all the things I worked up for. Like my job in US, my life and friends there. Everything is gone and now I am in India figuring out life.
This was a love marriage I met him on matrimonial site and he pursued me for 6 months before I said yes. That’s wat is the hardest part, I truly believed in the institution of marriage and in him and he hurt me so much.
Someone here suggested if I had complained to police I wud stand a chance. I did ...once in March but It backfired, since i was on tourist visa the cops made things really hard for me. But either way its in police record.
I want him to face the consequences for wat he did to me it’s not fair. He shouldn’t be able to get away like this or else he could do this to some other girl, it’s not fair. I want government to know he wronged me and prevent this from happening to someone else. I was wondering if I have any legal rights in Canada. How I should approach this?
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Originally posted by morning_rain
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Originally posted by Mercury
Try Canadian Embassy's help in this matter along with India authorities. Since you are still married, you have right to join your husband. Atleast close the India door. Also contact some Cdn lawyers if you can to see what can be done.
i would not simply give up.
She does not seem to be indicating that she wants to return to her abusive home situation.
Yes you are right. I felt from the email that she does want to come to Canada though. This is a complex situation, as there are no set clear rules about it. This is a loop hole between countries.
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Originally posted by skd8
I read all these replies, thanks a lot for your help.
I am very qualified person with most of my education and work experience in US for me to get immigration to Canada is not hard but it was never on my agenda, I wud have rather been in US any day else I wud have applied for myself. It’s just that after I married him, I wanted to be in Canada. Well, now as things turn out I had to leave everything i worked for in US. I feel like this marriage is not only taken my trust in love and marriage from me but also all the things I worked up for. Like my job in US, my life and friends there. Everything is gone and now I am in India figuring out life.
This was a love marriage I met him on matrimonial site and he pursued me for 6 months before I said yes. That’s wat is the hardest part, I truly believed in the institution of marriage and in him and he hurt me so much.
Someone here suggested if I had complained to police I wud stand a chance. I did ...once in March but It backfired, since i was on tourist visa the cops made things really hard for me. But either way its in police record.
I want him to face the consequences for wat he did to me it’s not fair. He shouldn’t be able to get away like this or else he could do this to some other girl, it’s not fair. I want government to know he wronged me and prevent this from happening to someone else. I was wondering if I have any legal rights in Canada. How I should approach this?
there are some organisations which help people in situations like u
but i still suggest u to try coming back into US..that wud be easier to implement ur actions against him.
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it is nice to be important..but it is more importanat to be NICE
there are some members...who do not understand the problem itself...instead they sprinkle salt on the wound by calling the victim ;a PR greedy person....in my view u can contact a good legal advisor who is able to guide you in a right way.....dont ask these half cooked brains who talk shhit only.....all the best ....and teach a lesson to your hubby too....
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there are some members...dont ask these half cooked brains who talk shhit only.....all the best ....and teach a lesson to your hubby too....
Aren't you one of them??
And what will anyone get by teaching a lesson to her hubby in this practical world??
Isn't it better to forget and forgive, and lead your own life as you would like to rather than take revenge and spoil her own present and future?
Chandresh
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Chandresh
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