Posted on: 26-02-07 16:04:07
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Originally posted by souvik_k
I would give the arguement of mercy killing more weightage if the family had decided on an abortion without bothering to find out about the sex of the child. While that would also be unfortunate I can still understand that. Wouldn't boys born in that family face the same poverty. This kind of killing is done mostly to avoid having to pay a dowry down the line. So even though the reasons may appear to be financial, the root cause is not poverty, but the dowry system and "cultural prejudices" of such people.
P.S. The intention of this reply is not a pick a fight with anyone, but just to have a discussion. Also, I am having a very slow monday
sorry Sk the reply was not meant to offend or pick a fight ... just having a discussion ... must add that abortion , in most cases , is not done to avoid kids....... infact in india people have more kids (read girls) 'cause they keep on trying to get a son. .... monday blues ......cheers
the government should educate those parents. Nowadays girls and boys alike have the same right to make an earning. Education plays a big role.I feel sad for those parents too
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the killer
Yes Education is the key. Tell me how many people you know in your family/friends/itself who ( your parents) did not take any dowry from girls family.
Don't give stupid accuse that we did not ask but girls family gave themselves.
I know lot of people (specially from AP) in US/India who got 50 lakh cash, car, gold, land like 1 crore marriage. All these guys are engineer and working in IT. Most of them are from good family too. There must be bunch of people in this site in same boat.
My cousins got married and got full household stuff with car even they have all at their homes and they are keeping their dowry stuff at our home bes. they don't have place to keep everything double in tiny Delhi apartments.
Where is our education playing role?
(My marriage expense 2 lakh total even lots of things happen against social status to keep everybody happy.)
The poor people kill their girls because once the girls become young they are more prone to exploitation then the boys.
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You know you are a desi when ........ You spew forth the virtues of India, but don't want to live there...............You've never had a tanning salon membership
rahul_singh23 - you are asking me this question, how many of my family / parents took dowry but for ur kind information, i am not from pakistan/india/bangladesh/srilanka/middle east, where dowry plays a big role. I had never encounter any of my family member or friends asking dowry - I heard the word DOWRY only by watching movies and newspaper. Chilled up Rahul. The main cause of female child killer is Dowry and should be abolished completely
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the killer
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Originally posted by ashakeel
rahul_singh23 - you are asking me this question, how many of my family / parents took dowry but for ur kind information, i am not from pakistan/india/bangladesh/srilanka/middle east, where dowry plays a big role. I had never encounter any of my family member or friends asking dowry - I heard the word DOWRY only by watching movies and newspaper. Chilled up Rahul. The main cause of female child killer is Dowry and should be abolished completely
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Nature is great leveller. I am from Gujarat and I have recently read many reports that a certain section of society now has to pay dowry to get BRIDE as naural balance between boys and girls have been artificially distorted.
As regards accusing Indian of male prejudice, which I agree is fact, I would like any sincere participant of the forum to Google for such prejudice in Chinese community in China where one child policy has resulted in large number of young Chinese biys will remain unmarried/look for alternatives.
Sorry... Couldn't resist poking my nose in..
First question: Who are we to tell them how to lead their lives? Every civilization / culture has values which may be different from ours and may be considered bad/abhorrent/despicable/(insert your word here). Killing baby girls is THEIR decision. The majority of the people who kill their baby girls live in abject poverty , for them letting the girl live may seem like too harsh a punishment to give to the little kid.
Second Question: When is the last time you SACRIFICED something of value to support your beliefs? When you believe in something and do NOTHING when somebody acts against that belief what is the value of your belief? If you consider yourself powerless to change the world then why waste time on beliefs?
Let the firefight begin! 
