Maybe the kids are going to be fine if the parents are not as confused.

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Maybe the kids are going to be fine if the parents are not as confused.

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refresh my memory tk..arent you in the second group?

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It all depends on how you want the child to be brought up.
If for example, you plan to live and die in Canada, then it is better to bring up the child in line with Canadian tradition , in other words as how the Canadians grow up. Examples include eating meat, Giving Anglophone name to the child, Allowing sleepovers, Allowing to eat Cdn Cusine, Allowing the child to drink Alchohol, date, Making the child work part time from Age 16 etc... However you can infuse basic Desi principles at home like teaching them your religion, your cusine, your language but it should be confined to the 4 walls of your home.
There is another catogory of people who have come here for the exchange rate and who want to save and extract the max. benefit from Canada. These kind of people will send their children to India for education / relocate to India during the teen years and then return after 12 th. std to India to max. exploit Canada. These kind of people stick to their rigid Indian / Desi principles right from day one like giving desi names, being vegetarian, not adjusting to Canadian principles etc... These people donot care about the Cdn. society as they will be leaving as soon as the culture of Canada starts getting on to their children.
The third set of people are the ones that fall under the second catogory but who want to live and die in Canada. Those are the people whose children suffer the most.
To give you an example :
Ask a Chinese in Malaysia where he is originally from and he will say that he is from Malaysia.
As an Indian from malaysia where he is originally from and he will say that he is from Ramnad Dist of Tamil Nadu.
Chinese have adapted to the culture of Malaysia while the Tamil is still dreaming of Tamil Nadu. That is why the Chinese have been able to adapt to Malaysia while the tamil has not been able to and is in the lower rungs of the Malaysian society.

The choice is in your hand.

Peace by TK

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Guys guys.... hold your horses yaar.. I have gone through all your advices and feel the advise of tamilkuravan is absolutely great.... I am a mature lady with a daughter in University 2nd year - lives in hostel., son in grade 7., to different genration gaps.

You have to give respect inorder to get respect. give them there space and be there best friend. understand their culture outside and fight the war of being accepted in their environment through their age group and through their mind. even if you are here for 2 years. It is great. Do not loose yor kids becuase you want to be an indian. Being Indian is great but then loving the kids unconditional is also a value India has tought.

All said and done I liked the question - very good question and very wise ans. Keep it up guys

Who all of you are from Toronto..smile.
Neena
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