Posted on: 02-09-09 12:12:59
I think you guys have it wrong. If you are at home and you are quiet .. that's fine.
If you are going to a social gathering and don't want to be in a conversation than why are you going .. for the food?
If you are quiet, are you still involved in the conversation at least to nod your head and acknowledge the comments or you are just plain quiet lost in your own world?
Dont worry what the world thinks. Do what your most comfortable with. There will always be critics irrespective of whether you're quiet or talkative.
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I'm just quiet by nature, and I like being that way ...
I guess, by your ID, that you are woman ...
Are you married? Does your husband also think that you are Quiet?
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Mumbai Maazi Ladki ...
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Originally posted by her
I'm originally from India and live in Canada. I've noticed that most of the indian & pakistani people here criticize me a *lot* for being a quiet person, even though I talk to them, just not as much as everyone else. It's gotten to the point where I've stopped going to any south asian gatherings.
Whereas the canadian people here all find me quiet but "sweet", "adorable", etc. Why is it just my own people who dislike me so much??
What's wrong with being quiet? I'm not hurting anyone, I talk to people but I can't talk non-stop for hours like some people do.
There is NOTHING wrong with being quiet. People always have to have some opinion about others and tend to pick on the obvious. Ignore them.
I am assuming you are comfortable with who you are. Screw the rest of them.
But keep in mind, when some people ask you why you are quiet, they may not all necessarily have bad intentions. They may just be looking for some stimulating conversation and wonder why you may have nothing to say. That doesn't mean they don't like you. At which point you can just affirm that you are generally quiet. This has happened to me and genuine people who want to be friends with you like you for it and who you are...
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If you have a gun, you can rob a bank.
If you have a bank, you can rob everyone.
- Bill Maher
God has made each individual unique in his/her own way so, don't worry be happy by being just the person you are. People talk both ways, if you talk more then they will tell you are talkative and if you don't talk they will tell you are very quiet. you can't satisfy everybody. Just ignore them. enjoy the life the way you want to.
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The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
Mahatma Gandhi
Be yourself. If being quiet makes you happy then don't worry about what the world and your surroundings think. As long as you are not offending/harming others, your introversion and/or extroversion shouldn't concern others. However, we live in a society. Unfortunately people will always judge you, talk about you no matter what personality traits you have. The world would be a happy place, if we understand as well as accept that no two people are alike. Sounds too ideal, isn't it?
At the same time, I also advise you to exert confidence even in your quietness. If you're happy and confident with your natural personality traits then others will also accept you sooner or later.
Remember, politeness and positivity are the keys here.
Well, it is good that you have realized that you are a quiet person. You can say I am comfortable the way I am and ignore others. But as many here mentioned, we live in a society and need to be aware of the surroundings.
I would like to mention about the power of communication:- You started to ask here and see how many valuable suggestions you received. If you were quiet, you would have missed all these. It is the same thing in the group. Being quiet most of the time may not be useful all the time. There is a well known saying in Telugu and I try to make a crude translation: "If you don't ask, even your mother may not give you the food". I feel it is good to go with the flow. But if u need to ignore some one, being quiet is definitely the very best approach.
