Location: Western Hemisphere
Posted on: 20-10-09 08:01:21
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Originally posted by investpro
Now I am getting the hots for Marge Simpson!
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Dimple2001
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Originally posted by KumarM
A good friend of mine who has a family came over to discuss something that has kept me thinking a lot. He says he has feelings for another woman, who is not married. My friend is in his late 40s, south indian, with the usual arranged marriage. The lady in question, according to him, is in her late 30s, north indian Canadian. He says he is confused what to do. They are talking, exchanging emails in the office. That's all. His wife and kid (pre teen) know the lady through a spiritual/religious outfit. I told him not to get involved, even being a good friend with her. Who knows what it could lead to down the road. I never asked him about his relationship with his wife as its not my business. I know them well. I could make out from his voice that it was not the answer he wanted to hear from me.
CDs, weigh in your opinion. May be as a friend, I am looking from a different perspective.
KM
Dear Kumar, i am having a feeling that its your situation..not your firends...
just kidding dude...
well..forget about all the advises from outsiders...just let it go..after all life is short and we dont know what turned him into this relationship...
good and bad are relative terms..if both the parties are mature adults and they know how to deal with this...
just chill out guys/gils...enjoy the life as long as its not hurting others...
cheers
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MK
On another note , tell your friend to analyze the situation , decide whats right / wrong and stick to it ... Easier said then done but going for the wrong choice without thinking of the consequences can be suicidal ....
If for some reason , he does not mind deserting his family , should a need arise or does not mind deserting the lady in q , then obviously there are no problems .... There are more than 2 parties involved here and a lot of potential guilt ...
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Fido.
hey KumarM: your "friend" first needs to decide WHY he's interested in this woman.
is it because there's something lacking in his present marraige, something lacking in his wife that is drawing him towards this new woman?
or is it purely out of lust and attraction towards a younger and possibly prettier woman?
he should be honest with himself and ask this question.
either case he needs to know one thing i.e. there is NO WAY there can be a happy ending to this situation for everyone involved if he decides to continue this and take it to the next level.
it will break up his marriage, break his kids and chances are it may not work out with this new woman in the long run anyway
if he's in this situation because of the second reason i gave above, then it could be as "simple" as spending a secret weekend with her and getting it over and done with.
but if it is the first reason then he should carefully evaluate his situation and decide on the next step. he cannot continue this secretly for ever, it will come out sooner rather than later.
so he needs to decide whether this new relationship is worth his destroying his current life and living with all the pain and consequesnces (emotional, financial etc)
and of btw, the very first thing your friend should do is tell her that he's married and with kids.
he can't keep that secret forever. he should tell her pronto.
and that may be the end of it. she may call him a b*****d, slap his face and walk away.
happy ending for everyone
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Originally posted by mkannuri
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just chill out guys/gils...enjoy the life as long as its not hurting others...
cheers
Not ‘enjoy the life as long as its not hurting others...’
BUT,
enjoy the life as long as you are sure that it is not going to hurt others and yourself
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Originally posted by frnd
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Originally posted by mkannuri
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just chill out guys/gils...enjoy the life as long as its not hurting others...
cheers
Not ‘enjoy the life as long as its not hurting others...’
BUT,
enjoy the life as long as you are sure that it is not going to hurt others and yourself
thanks frnd for the correction...the point is ...u got the point...lol...
anyway i was taking this on easy note as this topic is not helping to any new immigrants.
I dont think one would need an adivse on this as the decision is purely rely on the individual intentions/temptations.
cheers
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MK
I have invited my friend to come over to my place this evening. I will show him the responses. Let him understand where he stands on this when its coming from several folks. He may rethink this hard. I don’t know how his married life is. I avoid asking real personal things.
LOL reg Cameron Diaz and Sandra Bullock (I am for Julia Roberts and Vidya Balan). Some humour in a serious situation. I liked it.
KM
