I notice so many people here are frustrated with their life in Canada and talking about moving back. But I believe the first thing is to mentally adjust yourself. I find so many people here behave like Indians who happen to be in Canada, rather than Canadian Indians.
What I mean?
- You are more concerned about politics in India then in your own neighbourhood
- You can name 10 of your neighbours in India but haven't said hello to the guy next door here.
- You know only about Bollywood and can't even name one Canadian actor or movie?
- You want to immigrate to Canada to make money but you don't really want to live here?
- You are passionate about Indian politics and don't even know who is running as your Canadian mayor/prime minister
- And the worst .. you refer to "Home" or "Back Home" as India .. rather than your now true home where you live.
I agree I am partially guilty of some things above but at least I try where I can. I feel many people on this site just don't want to try to embrace the country.
When in Rome .. don't be a Indian!
Hopefully this will get some firecrackers going.
You are 100% RIGHT and its a good observation. ... This is the unfortunate situation the current desi generation has to live with and I do not see real solution so that desi canadian wholeheartedly embrace Canada as it is. Of Course some significant percentage of desis really made Canada as their home... hats off to them.
The problem you said not going to be there for the next generation of desi kids who born here. Of Course the brought up in some homes é communities may produce strange or unexpected results.
Well, very sensitive. Basically we're stuck in Love / Love situation, you know what I am talking... There is no exit.. First generation immigrants are screwed as the only honest recourse left to them is to live thier life through kids.
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The 2 reasons that the Unhappy Canadian Indians as explained by Wall-E are staying on in Canada , despite mentally miserable, is Money Now and Pension Then . They will make excuses like - ' we are here for kids', 'too many commitments made already here ' , 'Will lose respect back home' etcetera vagerah. If it is impacting you mentally, please take action folks, else stop fooling yourself and continue to enjoy the life which is much much better in Canada than India.
I am right now in India for past 3 weeks on holidays, and itching to return to Canada waiting for winter fog to clear up. I miss Canada badly when I am here.
We are all humans at the end of the day. To be guided by one's emotions and feelings and love - nothing wrong.
To be a desi at heart and love all things desi - is natural. To pine for all things desi is also part of the whole package.
I believe that we expel our feelings of homesickness by devouring all information about India. We read Indian newspapers / actively follow the politics and entertainment back home - because that gives us some form of belonging - it is like maa me haath ka khaana - nothing is comparable to it and we spend our lifetime pining for it.
We find all communities across the board guilty as such - eg. An expat forum in HongKong was lamenting how they all missed Halloween - and what they all did as kids "back home" and how they tried to re-create it for their kids - but it's never the same.
I think there is nothing wrong - with living in Canada - and reminiscing about India - maybe it's comparable to living with the loss of a loved one - you live your life without that person but you always remember and miss them - see their photographs - wish you were with them - present company may be royalty but still not good enough as being with that person.
I am guilty of being that person - I miss India - which will always be HOME - in its truest sense. Sadly, it is a place where I am a tourist now - I can't go back - because it no longer exists - except in my imagination. The India that is now - is not the one I left 15yrs ago - it has moved on. I did not.
It's a paradox - Canada is more of a home and I love it here - I love everything about Canada - when in India, I want to come back home to Canada. Home is Canada and Backhome is India - if that makes any sense.
Canada is a reality while back home India is a memory. So, asking people to go back home - is not possible for them. Na ghar ke na ghat ke!
Nothing wrong with loving your memories from India .. but definitely wrong when you refuse to create new memories in Canada and only stick to discussing your old Indian memories as superior and the only ones that matter.
This is typical of many Indians.
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Posted on: 26-12-14 13:49:19
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Originally posted by wall-E
Nothing wrong with loving your memories from India .. but definitely wrong when you refuse to create new memories in Canada and only stick to discussing your old Indian memories as superior and the only ones that matter.
This is typical of many Indians.
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Well said.
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