Please guide newly landed immigrant to find a job
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Posted on: 09-07-15 06:36:45
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Originally posted by happywoman36
u need 2 hands to clap FP. ab laxmiji and vishnuji bhi nahi bach paye tho hum tho insaan hai na.Brahmaji ne likha hua koi badal nahi sakta hai so, u might as well sit back and enjoy it.
still... I feel the stress level is less if one handles homefront and other handles job and u live and let live.
Tumhara naam kya hain Basanti!!!
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Originally posted by JRF
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Originally posted by happywoman36
u need 2 hands to clap FP. ab laxmiji and vishnuji bhi nahi bach paye tho hum tho insaan hai na.
still... I feel the stress level is less if one handles homefront and other handles job and u live and let live.
Tumhara naam kya hain Basanti!!!
LOL - you have just proved me correct.
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A Delhite in Toronto
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Originally posted by febpreet
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still... I feel the stress level is less if one handles homefront and other handles job and u live and let live.
I agree. However, this requires subsiding of the materialistic expectations from both. Small Car, small house, holiday in two years instead of every year, and some other stuff. If one has high expectation, i.e. wants to live in a bigger house but the salary is only 90k, then you're prone to fights and the expectation for both to work. It's the real 'un'happiness these days.
Everyone wants to have a big 3 level house, 2 cars with one being an SUV/Van, while earning 80-90k at the most. To jump onto the bandwagon, both start working by leaving the kids behind. If you want one to remain home and take care of the kids, the other either needs to bring in good amount of money to meet the high expectations, or both of them be contented with whatever they are making - happily. The latter is the ideal family, a rare find these days.
It's hard to reach on the same page in a married life. Those that do, I have my salute to them - you did it. May all the happiness to you.
Anyhow! I think we are diverting again. As the OP found a job, let's close this right here. If not, let's open another thread to discuss.
B..bye!
U have to work towards the same page boss. We can afford 2 cars, still we have one RAV4 and another is lying idle in driveway (corolla 2002). We enjoy walking to school coz it keeps u healthy. From Jan- Mar, get a taxi which cost 5-8 if it's too cold to walk. I just love travelling by ttc and subway.
secondly, Investment in right area pays off. We earn $1000 on 2 condos and $1300-1400 frm our basement apartment so, our mortgage is paid off including utilities, property tax and insurance.
Rest food and clothing is provided by my great superman (hubby). Ab... Brahmaji se yeh bhi dekha nahi ja raha. Goti khelne ki jo adat hai unhe.
My great superman is taking tension of mortgage unnecessarily when I am telling him to enjoy life. No matter how much u try to make ur homefront smooth, kuch tho locha chalu rahta hai. we all are an entertainment to Brahmaji and other God.
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Revenge can be bitter sweet, but if u sit back and watch, KARMA can be pure entertainment.
Perhaps time to explain as to why I stress so much on homefront and children?
We have a family of professionals including me. When we were small, we were the happiest family but after siblings started getting married, stress level started. With children, joint family was fun but when they started to separate, painful process started. We unmarried were happy but families after separation suffered a lot coz both were professionals and never wanted to give up job though both were working on managerial level.
Now my elder sister, who has both daughters when they were babies, suffered a lot. First the elder daughter watched some tv programme with maid, where the child was abused badly ( maid teenager being not educated much didn't realise the damage) was so mentally upset after the serial/movie whatever that, my sister had to rush the 5-6 yrs old niece to doctors often then some psychologist and in the meantime, second toddler who was 5-6 months had high fever one day and at night my sister who was so tired aftr work delayed medicine thinking another 2-3 hours till morning and the fever went into the brain and the most beautiful child in the family started having fits. Again running around for best doctors frm Goa to Mumbai to Bangalore cost so much money. After spending lacs of rupees, thank God both are better. Now one is architect and another is in high school in the best school in Mumbai.
Another one with 11 and 5 yrs old is leaving home with whole family at 7.30 am and returns with whole family at 8.30-9 pm. They are at home to sleep 10 pm to 6 am and their 3 bhk with 3 washroom is more than 1.5 crores in Mumbai. They don't have time for each other nor for their children nor are they enjoying what they are working for. I don't see smiles on their face much in spite of them earning more then 2 lacs pm+ 2 cars, 2 scooters.
Another one is having one daughter who is engg now but her mom comes home at 12- night (CA with her own practice)and father is semi retired coz somebody has to be with the daughter when she is growing up.
Seeing all these, I decided that, I shall quit my career after my children are born.
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Revenge can be bitter sweet, but if u sit back and watch, KARMA can be pure entertainment.
Good for you ..God Bless
Did your sisters quit their career too ?
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Fido.
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Originally posted by Fido
Good for you ..God Bless
Did your sisters quit their career too ?
They will never quit coz they are all bank managers and earning more than 1.5 lacs pm + extravagant benefits. All hifi people who don't respect me coz am a home maker now.
( I think, they wanted to quit when their children were sick but doctors fees were high when they were being treated by specialists and banks reimburses 80-85% of the bills and medicine cost so they continued. Now children are grown up and they are independent and old enough to look after themselves. )
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Revenge can be bitter sweet, but if u sit back and watch, KARMA can be pure entertainment.
I hope you are happy in your life and they are happy in theirs !! All are right per their own perspectives since all are leading life as they wanted to ..
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Fido.
