What are your views on love marriage rather than arranged marriage? I think in today's world, love marriages should be accepted as long as they are willing to spend lifetime with eachother. I don't think it should matter if the boy has his career or not, as long he can secure the family's future. It matters how the person is from inside. One should go for who he/she is not what he/she has.
But i'd like to get views on this from all ages, as to arranged marriage still do exist in today's world, and is it better than love marriage?
Gujju chokri
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Posted on: 20-02-05 09:11:03
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Orginally posted by gujju_chokri
What are your views on love marriage rather than arranged marriage? I think in today's world, love marriages should be accepted as long as they are willing to spend lifetime with eachother. I don't think it should matter if the boy has his career or not, as long he can secure the family's future. It matters how the person is from inside. One should go for who he/she is not what he/she has.
But i'd like to get views on this from all ages, as to arranged marriage still do exist in today's world, and is it better than love marriage?
Gujju chokri
IMHO:
Arranged Marriage: I do not understand how two people can marry when they dont know and understand each other before marriage. Marriage is a long term agreement to live together.
The criteria of judgment, if a couple really loves each other (before marriage) varies on a large scale in people.
IMHO, the criteria and judgment process gets better in people, with age and experience of life.
In the times of our parents and grandparents, marriages took place at quite early ages, and perhaps thats why love marriages seemed to fail.
Also, in old times, love marriages were somehow based on "beauty" concepts, which is not true for the current time.
Now, the tendency is that people prefer to marry when they have completed their studies and worked for some time (or get established) and are more experienced with life. And, the tendency now is that people try to find a proper match for each other, instead of looking for a handsome young man or a very pretty girl.
Hence the success rate is perhaps higher in "Own Choice" marriages (In desis, at least).
There will be at least a million views on this subject, and that's just my humble opinion!
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How about arranged love marriage?
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Posted on: 20-02-05 11:10:15
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Orginally posted by mercury6
How about arranged love marriage?
or a lovely arranged marriage....
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How about a live in relationship.....before love marriage
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Orginally posted by jago_desi
How about a live in relationship.....before love marriage
Not a desi way!!
50% of the love marriages fails in Canada. Is it true??
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In my view, love should start after marriage - and believe me, once you get married to a stranger, love starts blossoming even if they do not have exactly the same likes and dislikes.
There is nothing like a perfect match!. Even two siblings coming out of the same womb are not same, then how can two different persons from different families be a perfect match for each other? In any relationship, one has to make a lot of small and big compromises, but if at the end of the day, the result is that both are able to live with the compromises they have made, it is a good union.
For love marriages, everything seems looks great before marriage, because more often than not, the individuals show the best side of their personalities and in the love, show that they accept those things of other which actually they do not like. Only when you get married you realise that you have got to live with the 'real' other person, and then you have to make bigger compromises to keep that relationship than you had originally planned to.
And yes, I have heard and read (I can't produce a link here) that in North America, more than 50%of marriages end up in divorces at some time or the other. I would not know how many of them are love marriages and how many arranged marriges - but looking at it generally, I would feel that they would be love marriages.
In my own family of 8 siblings - only one marriage failed - and that was a love marriage!
Chandresh
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