"Love and sex fade over time my friend , its the companionship which remains " were words spoken 2 me by a Manager 02 years back and I bore this strongly in mind .
I think success of any relationship -- friendship , spouse or otherwise depends upon like mindedness and commitment . Its like co operation & co ordination --- the former complements the latter . If u have commitment and faith ur marriage will survive all odds be it arranged / love . However if u have like mindedness it will glide .
Though like mindedness may occur both in love / arranged love marriages have an edge over arranged ones as u fall in love over a period of time with in which u communicate with the other person and feel whether u r like minded or not unlike an arranged which is chance based.
Trust me u can live with less money , less beauty but not with less like mindedness or conflicting personalities .
Or else as Frank Sinatra sang " Love n marriage go together like a horse and carriage -- u cant have 1 without the other "
Just my 2 cents .
Manasvi.
I go for the Love Marriage.....though mine was a friendship which turned to love and respect for each other and then we had a nice marriage with the blessings of all our elders! Way to go isn't it !
IMPO, when parents try to find life partners for their kids, I don't think that there is anything wrong in that. They are the people who sometimes know you more than your ownself. It is all a matter of being on the same wavelength for all parties concerned.
Any relationship which is allowed to'season' always brings out the best essence/fragrance unlike the half baked relations. One always needs to work on something one cherishes, add new facets and keep things alive.
Have seen friends in both types of marriages failing miserably mainly due to lack of committment,lack of communication, over expectations, EGO and impatience......it is a person to person thing.....no set rules....though would not agree to live in relationships as something from which you have the provision to walk away from, is not worth anything.
Worship
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1. My cousin - she is in the process of divorce - lives in India - the guy is having affairs - love marriage.
2. My co-worker - desi - in the process of divorce - lives in US - don't know the reason - arranged marriage.
3. My co-worker - desi - in the US - divorced - don't know the reason - arranged marriage.
4. My ex co-worker and a good family friend - American (Caucasian, if that makes a difference), just completed the divorce after 12 yrs of marriage - needless to say, love marriage.
5. One of our family members - seriously considering divorce - "fed up" with her husband - married for many years - has a 20 yr old daughter studying in US - immigrated to US about 8 yrs ago - arranged marriage.
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Hey Smartguy,
Interesting inferences from my sample.... Though, not enough sample to conclude.....based on six sigma experience
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Hey Smartguy,
Interesting inferences from my sample.... Though, not enough sample to conclude.....based on six sigma experience
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Hey Smartguy,
Interesting inferences from my sample.... Though, not enough sample to conclude.....based on six sigma experience
Oh these statistics and data management and six sigma principles (what the heck is it by the way??) -
Chandresh
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I go for the Love Marriage.....though mine was a friendship which turned to love and respect for each other and then we had a nice marriage with the blessings of all our elders! Way to go isn't it !
IMPO, when parents try to find life partners for their kids, I don't think that there is anything wrong in that. They are the people who sometimes know you more than your ownself. It is all a matter of being on the same wavelength for all parties concerned.
Any relationship which is allowed to'season' always brings out the best essence/fragrance unlike the half baked relations. One always needs to work on something one cherishes, add new facets and keep things alive.
Have seen friends in both types of marriages failing miserably mainly due to lack of committment,lack of communication, over expectations, EGO and impatience......it is a person to person thing.....no set rules....though would not agree to live in relationships as something from which you have the provision to walk away from, is not worth anything.
Worship
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