http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1019495.cms

HYDERABAD: Television channels have declared it as the season of love. Swank shopping malls call it the 'love fest'. Card companies are doing brisk business with their mushy 'I-love-you' greetings and souvenirs. But, Aids activists are not impressed with the hype.

For, the negative fallout of this multi-crore marketing blitzkrieg is a manifold rise in high-risk behaviour among school and college students on Valentine's Day

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You know you are a desi when ........ You spew forth the virtues of India, but don't want to live there...............You've never had a tanning salon membership

yeah a good topic discussed here. but how come you can stop childrens of todays generation? and I don't see any harm if my daughter learns all those things which guys do. and I fully support the subject of sex education in schools, atleast children will know the diseases related to sex and the precautions they need to take. and as MR. zhabuk said to involve childrens in religious activities, I don't support this idea.
What is god?
good orderly directions

First thing I like to tell you before going further is that I respect every religion and I studied spirituality for 6 months as an additional subject. and what I learnt from every granths of religion that I studyied is that they all gives the same message, and in every religious book it is written that no one is allowed to kill anyone. so why 9/11 and why riots every year in India? So I decided not to teach such religions to my children instead I will follow the rule of thumb, work hard and make your own way. and tell them the importance of three important S of life, and these S are:-

Security (job, education, money these things come in this S)

Social (all the social activities are part of this S)

and Sex (we all know that it is important part of life)

We all readiing this post are educated in different fields. So do in 2005 still you people think that there should be any difference between a girl and a boy. especially when in canada. here I don't mean to forget our traditions and cultures from back home, but do you think that by giving birth to childrens we owe them for all their life. I have seen people making abortion of girl childs but I am a proud dad of a daughter, I know I have given birth to someone who will help bringing another life on earth.
and it is not only boys who should be allowed going to discs in nights, girls shouls also be allowed to live freely like boys and choose their own path.
the other thing is we can only help children understand better tomorrow, rest all depends on them. How they want to live and with whom.
I have seen many students in India who never had gone out of their house because of their parents restictions on them. and when they came to hostels some of them only remain studious and some gets addicted to drugs and now they are out of their parents circle. they are in a new world, new friends. what I want to say here is that we can't hold our children forever, so better to think about their interests and teach them accordingly, and guide them on every step of life but never impose your orders on them.
love them and make them grow in a healthy enviroment and not in a jail. otherwise impose taliban rule in canada also if you want to restrict them.

I have seen good response from some people here, and I bet they are on right track of life. Keep it up guys.

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Learn from past mistakes, Plan for future, Live in Present by Duncan

We as parents have the greatest influence in our child's life. we can either spoil it or build it, we can either bring them up in self dobt or in self confidence, we can either make them people who are proud of them selves or ashamed of them selves. the foundation we put in their life on which they grow later on in life has the greatest importance. even if we dont have lots of money to offer them but can give the good foundation of self respect and respect for others they will grow to be very successfull people.

what i have come accorss is that, today the parents are behind materialism and they are forgetting to spend quality time with their children . i am sure our children needs our love and attention more than the money we could give them . another problem that happens is, when we are guilty of not spending sufficent time with them we tend to be linient when it comes to disciplining them. We should also teach our children to know themselves so that they can be better at who they really are than immitate rock stars or actors.

we certainly cannot control them but we can mold them to good human beings.

have a good day and think over whether we really are helping our children to be whom they can really be?

I am wondering why the posts suddenly stopped being submitted. I believe this is an important issue to be discussed and we need to spend some time after our children.

I came across an Scottish lady working in my company complaining about her 7 year old who was asking her about sex, intercourse and stuff like that. She could not find the way to answer her questions. The point here is that the lady comes from Western culture and confused about where and how the things should end up. We, as a part of our culture have at least an idea of "molding" our children in the way Bigsmile suggested.

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I am wondering why the posts suddenly stopped being submitted. I believe this is an important issue to be discussed and we need to spend some time after our children.

I came across an Scottish lady working in my company complaining about her 7 year old who was asking her about sex, intercourse and stuff like that. She could not find the way to answer her questions. The point here is that the lady comes from Western culture and confused about where and how the things should end up. We, as a part of our culture have at least an idea of \"molding\" our children in the way Bigsmile suggested.

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All parents whether from the west or east, generally hope to mold their children to have values, and morals (usually according to their own values/morals). I think the best way to handle a 7 or 17 year old with topics about Sex is with honesty. Explain to a 7 year old in terms they understand. Explain for ex/ that its for grownups married people who love each other.

As others have said, times have changed. If your daughter doesnt learn it from Home, or from school (accurately according to her age level) she will likely learn about it from elsewhere..and what information she gets may or may not be accurate. Give your daughter trust and explain what your expectations of her are. Biggest thing: communicate with her. If the communication lines remain open..and she's not scolded for being curious..then she'll grow up hopefully with a) a good relationship of trust with her parents b) ability to make the right decisions when it comes to certain situations (dating etc).

There are MANY 2nd generation youth that I know, grew up with and see today that hide many aspects of their life from their parents including dating and sex. If I was a parent, I would rather allow my child to date .. and set appropriate limits or in ur case ..discuss sex and its implications (age appropriately) rather than tell them \"you cant\" and most likely they will do it behind ur back. It depends on you: do you want or child to fear you..or see you as a good advisor who trusts their judgement?

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I have been aware of at least 3 families who have migrated to Canada for 3-10 years and they have daughter/s studying in school and the parents are reviewing their decision to migrate here.

One good suggestion is to actively involve children in regilious activities so that they have a strong cultural foundation which help them deciding what is fair! Please share some more ideas.

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