This is where people with all the experience in the analysis of all of the situation must step in and provide timely help to the O.P. I am glad to see one good response and situation analysis trickling in. Nevertheless it is welcome and it will give clues to proceed in the right direction.

I have sent the phone number and the approximate costs of a group that handles these cases and that was a long time ago and if the O.P. returns we can find out if that was helpful or not.

Thanks T.K. for dropping in and keeping the thread active.

Stay SAFE.

Regards.

FH.

Document everything --- audio, video, emails, letters, notes etc.

If you are a guy, the onus is on you to prove the opposite party wrong. It may not be written in any law book, but that is the unwritten rule in family courts. Once you have all the evidence, file for divorce right away and remove your kids from her care. No violent person like that should ever be allowed to care for kids. She may be having mental health issues.

Speak to a lawyer and have an exit strategy.