Hi,

I just finished the best selling self-help book of Dale Carnegie
"How to Win Friends and Influence People"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People

and now started reading the second one
"How to Stop Worrying and Start Living "

I started exercising some basic rules in office as well at home and started getting the result.

The book"How to Win Friends and Influence People " has four major sections. The core principles of each section are listed below.

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People:

"Don't criticize, condemn or complain."
"Give people a feeling of importance; praise the good parts of them."
"Get the other person to do what you want them to by arousing their desires."

Six Ways to Make People Like You:

"Become genuinely interested in other people."
"Smile."
"Remember that a man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
"Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves."
"Talk in the terms of the other man's interest."
"Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely."

Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking:

"Avoid arguments."
"Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong."
"If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically."
"Begin in a friendly way."
"Start with questions the other person will answer yes to."
"Let the other person do the talking."
"Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers."
"Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view."
"Sympathize with the other person."
"Appeal to noble motives."
"Dramatize your ideas."
"Throw down a challenge."
Nine Ways to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment:

"Begin with praise and honest appreciation."
"Call attention to other people's mistakes indirectly."
"Talk about your own mistakes first."
"Ask questions instead of giving direct orders."
"Let the other person save face."
"Praise every improvement."
"Give them a fine reputation to live up to."
"Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct."
"Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest."

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ani

Thanks for the summary ...I had read it long time ago...........but good to get synopsis....

It's a life changing book. It woked for me and still is. I gave it as a gift to my dad and he also was so excited after reading this book.


"Read Magic of Thinking Big" too

I found this one a good way to know about 9 basic rules

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgNzhY7yi3E

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ani