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Originally posted by meghal
(1) Family structure - Joint family is an inhernet part of Asian (Indian sub-continent or Chinese) tradition. ALthough there are nuclear family in Indian Metropolis - but that is because of either parents living in another city, or lack of space in parents home. So everybody gets surprised when I say that my I stay with my mother (Or in Canadian style - my mother stays with me). So will the next generation agree to stay in their parents house once they settle down. Will the parents ask their kids to stay with them and take care of them.
Here it is not unusual for parents to move to seniors home when they no longer can take care of themselves. For us, it is quite natural to feel guilty for thinking about sending parents to seniors home
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Originally posted by meghal
I have been a bit vague in my original posting. Let me specify some social or political issues where clash of ideas/culture/values may arise when one immigrates to Canada and tries to assimilate into mainstream. I am not saying what is good or bad. I am just highlighting the difference
(7) At workplace - less hierarchy - you can call your superior by his first name. He does not have a separate office, but has a cubicle just like you. The owner of your company shares the same kitchen/coffee/washroom as the person at the bottom rung of ladder. This idea of equality can be hard to digest for somebody who might be at senior position in India and used to the beareaucracy.
Well at my office they do have separate office,kitchen and wash room for senior executives. we have 350 employees working in the same buiding. Of course, I am with the same company for 5 years (since I came to Canada) and have limited experience.
(8) This may not be a sharp difference, but Caucasians are said to be less frugal with their money than Asians. It won't hurt them much to blow away their savings or income on items of physical comfort. While in India, as typical middle class has always tried hard to make their ends meet, and hence is a bit stringent when it comes to spend the money. Can you change your money spending habits?
The reason, is that they damn are sure to get a job when they want. I am worried abt my future and want to take care of my kid's education
(10) Social causes - Canadians tend to be more vocal when it comes to social causes such as walks/marathons/fund raising etc. etc. It is interesting to see how media as well as society still holds vigils for Holly Jones case even after two years or recently in the services held for slain Windsor police officer. Whenever anybody is in trouble, the media as well as society will come forward to support that person.
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Originally posted by morning_rain
Guilt is a subjective thing. If a person (hypothetically)wants their parents around so they can also have their own children taken care of - then they are using the relationship to their advantage and maybe a bit of guilt is not a bad thing. IF you are in Canada and ur parents want to be back home in India and maintain that they will stay alone but arent happy here..would you allow your guilt to force them to live with you? At the expense of their happiness?
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Originally posted by Loser
Indian culture is a myth. Indains are the most uncultured people in my experience.
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Hi Meghal,
You have provided the answers for all your questions.Well,change is a difficult process and so has to be necessarily gradual.Abrupt change leaves a lot of emotional turmoil. Attitudinal change is important to face upto the changes in environment for minimal emotional disturbance. But bringing about attitudinal change is probably the most difficult as you are required to accept things which you have not traditionally accepted. I think it is important for one to realise this.Attitudinal change could be and MUST BE atleast to the extent of mentally allowing others (or is it reconciling) their rights to lead lives the way they want,if it is not possible to accept what they do or what exists outside your control. This means that in such situations,one must develop the ability to be indifferent to or not take cognizance of those things that one does not like.
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Indian culture is a myth. Indains are the most uncultured people in my expirience.
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