My neighbour, a "gora", offered me to remove scratches from my car. Yesterday, while I was in my home, he went outside, and fixed some of the scratches. Now, he said that if I brought the paint from Canadian Tire, he could fix remaining scratches.
I am wondering why he would be so generous in offering help? Does he have any ulterior motive? First he said, he wanted to do me a favour. Now he is helping me, just because helping fellow man is a peaceful and Godly act!!! A bit tough to believe
So how should I reciproacate or pay back to him? I just cannot buy a present and give back to him, as it would be too obvious.
Any suggestions?????!!!!!!
Location: Private location
Posted on: 09-06-06 10:17:52
Why can you not just accept this as a kind neighbourly act?
Why do you assume he has an ulterior motive?
Because he's white? Would you have these suspicions if he was brown?
Just wondering....
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Bijou Bazaar
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Location: Western Hemisphere
Posted on: 09-06-06 10:19:28
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Originally posted by meghal
My neighbour, a "gora", offered me to remove scratches from my car. Yesterday, while I was in my home, he went outside, and fixed some of the scratches. Now, he said that if I brought the paint from Canadian Tire, he could fix remaining scratches.
I am wondering why he would be so generous in offering help? Does he have any ulterior motive? First he said, he wanted to do me a favour. Now he is helping me, just because helping fellow man is a peaceful and Godly act!!! A bit tough to believe
So how should I reciproacate or pay back to him? I just cannot buy a present and give back to him, as it would be too obvious.
Any suggestions?????!!!!!!
If you have a good relationship with your neighbour and if you feel he is not some superficial fake, then there is nothing wrong in him being neighbourly irrespective of what his skin colour is.
So, if you want to accept his offer of him fixing your car, go for it and don't worry about reciprocating. Your chance to be a good neighbour will always come without you knowing about it and you will get a chance to help him out sometime later.
My neighbour mows my lawn without telling me and I have snow-blowed his driveway without his permission. My neighbour borrows my wheel barrow all the time and I have sought their help in lifting heavy stuff. It's all in how good of a relationship you maintain among your neighbours. That's all.
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Dimple2001
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Originally posted by Pink Panther
Because he's white? Would you have these suspicions if he was brown?
Just wondering....
His skin colour hardly matters. After having many bad experiences in the life, it is difficult to believe that somebody (irrespective of his/her skin colour) will offer to do stuff for you without any gain
Meghal
Location: Private location
Posted on: 09-06-06 10:46:10
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Originally posted by meghal
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Originally posted by Pink Panther
Because he's white? Would you have these suspicions if he was brown?
Just wondering....
His skin colour hardly matters. After having many bad experiences in the life, it is difficult to believe that somebody (irrespective of his/her skin colour) will offer to do stuff for you without any gain
Meghal
If you honestly feel this, then you wouldn't even have mentioned the colour of his skin in the first place...since it doesn't matter, right? Think about it...
I'm sorry your bad life experiences had given you a general mistrust of the human race.
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Bijou Bazaar
http://bijoubazaar22.googlepages.com
Location: God's own country
Posted on: 09-06-06 11:07:08
My experience with Gora's has been this (and this is just my experience and my view. I tend to move mostly with people going regularly to churches.) :
Gora's are very frank. They generally donot offer to help/ interfere with other's way of life but if they do offer help, then their offer is genuine. Th So donot hesitate to take their help. They are also not like general desi's- looking for Tit for Tat help. If they need your help in any way, they will ask for it and will not be offended if you say no. They are also very honest. An example would be if you both decide to go to a restaurant. Before you enter the restaurant, they will decide upon the terms of payment - like you pay 50% and i will pay 50 %. They will not be like desi's who look the other way or go to the washroom once the bill is on the table or like some who will fight in front of the waiter to pay the bill themselves.
Also this depends upon how integral your neighbour is , like is he drunk always, does he shout at his family members at his house, does he keep his front / back yard clean etc.. This (helping tendancy) will vary or be different if the Gora is European. I am assuming that the Gora is Canadian.
TK A
Sidenote : Just wanted to share my experience of 2 desi's.
1. A desi in Nigeria in 1979. He invited us over for dinner and gave us a full and hearty meal. At the end of the meal, he requested my dad to allow my mum to look after his infant (along with the help of a nigerian lady baby sitter) in our house for FREE. Since we ate the meal, we had to agree to it. This brought a big fight to my mum and dad that in a month, with my dad accusing my mum of not giving enough attention to me and hence we refused to oversee the baby sitter. This person incidentally was recently in Oakville and i even talked to him on the phone. He is not a professor in UCLA, California. Shows how cheap these people can be. however it was a lesson for us esp. my parents and even to this day my dad will not trust anyone expect his family members.
2. A desi in Toronto. He gave me a full meal and then asked to borrow $5000 which i refused. But i often do to him some small favours based on the meal given to me like giving him my suitcase for his family's trip to india etc.....
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I am a Gents and not a Ladies.
Meghal,
This is not a surprise. My neighbour helped a lot, including activities that involve lot of labour (and I probably can not do). And he never expected anything in return.
However we were reciprocating many things with him. Indian food, Love to his dog (Most important), Cleaning drive-ways, Snow blowing, Greeting cards, sending gift during their festivals etc. etc.
You may like to consider sending a "Thanks" card for now.
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A Proud Indian Canadian
