Divorce can produce devastating effects on the lives of both men and women. But, we never hear about how it effects men since men by nature don’t speak out and prefer to suffer in silence.
The below article illustrates how divorce devastates men, mentally and physically. Reading this article has given me a better understanding as to why some men go to extremes and also sympathy for men who have gone through this process and the importance of lending them a shoulder during these difficult times. Please feel free to list your experiences, if any.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/16/divorce-confessions_n_5999050.html
The reddit article has an outpouring of feelings and experiences to help those who need to share.
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/2jbng0/divorced_men_of_reddit_what_is_a_divorce_like/
Peace to all,
Rajagopal.
Public transport buses in Chennai carry Thirukural written by Thriuvalluvar more than 2000 years ago.
The advantage is that it is free psychiatric counselling if only we apply our mind during the boring and mostly congested and torturous bus journeys.
One such kural board says that
the character and objective of Grahastha's (ilvazhkai/married) life is love and dharma/Aram (towards the family members).
ANBUM ARAMUM UDAITHAYIN ILVAZHKAI
PANBUM PAYANUM ADHU.
Another board on "Dharma" says for the sake of simplicity
Jealousy, greed, anger and harsh words all these four when avoided will be dharma (Aram).
AZHUKARAVAA, VEGULI, INNASOL IVAINANGUM
IZHUKADHU EYANDRADHARAM.
Please forgive for my poor translation, probably TK with his better english can give the correct translation.
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Posted on: 19-10-14 14:04:01
Nice topic.
In India, Men can be put in Jail if the woman so wishes as the laws are written with a woman bias. So there are cases where this has been misused and husbands and elderly in laws have been put in jail by women.
As far as devestating effects on men, it is subjective. Men have alchohol and less family responsibilities and they do not suffer as much as woman. It can wreck a family, if a woman is forced to take care of kids alone. Also the society sees woman in a different light. I am telling this as a CD and not as Gora in Canada.
To Ramar,
I am very poor in translation of tHirukural (As I am a part west african) so kindly excuse.
Murali TK
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I am a Gents and not a Ladies.
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Originally posted by happywoman36
We hv to salute our parents that they gv us happiest childhood inspite of everything. We hv to learn frm thm. Thnx for the article.
What does that have to do with the 'Men's' issues and divorce? Yes, our parents gave us a great life, but when we grow up and face all of these marital hardships with the society become up and arm against men. Wives, who were one lovers squeeze men with every single penny they can lay their hands on as well as take away the emotion bonding of kids, then where do our parents come into the picture? It's the individual's fight. Nothing to do with the upbringing.
Coming back to the topic, yes, this is the common concern men have these days. I completely agree with 'Reddit' word by word. Sort of like, double sword.
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Originally posted by tamilkuravan
Nice topic.
Men have alchohol and less family responsibilities and they do not suffer as much as woman.
Murali TK
Read again, and refrain from the blanket statements such as this. Responsible, great husbands, and fathers also suffer as much as women. Both genders have the same flesh and blood.
Men tend to hide their emotions, doesn't mean they are less sensitive and suffer less than women.
I am all for equality and objectivity though. But, where is the one, when one half takes away God's most precious gift to the mankind in the form of the kids, as well their financial security with themselves.
When I read these sad tales of devastated men, I often wonder how happy are those that don't get married.
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Originally posted by happywoman36
We hv to salute our parents that they gv us happiest childhood inspite of everything. We hv to learn frm thm. Thnx for the article.
What does that have to do with the 'Men's' issues and divorce? Yes, our parents gave us a great life, but when we grow up and face all of these marital hardships with the society become up and arm against men. Wives, who were one lovers squeeze men with every single penny they can lay their hands on as well as take away the emotion bonding of kids, then where do our parents come into the picture? It's the individual's fight. Nothing to do with the upbringing.
Coming back to the topic, yes, this is the common concern men have these days. I completely agree with 'Reddit' word by word. Sort of like, double sword.
Divorce affects whole family not just husband or wife. I think children are affected most. They deserve both parents and family love. OUr parents also had diff of opinion and arguments but they never thought of divorce coz they sacrificed for their children. One should love unconditionally. Just a thought frm my side.
Agree with you completely. However, world has changed - not sure, if for good or for worst.
