Posted on: 13-04-12 11:57:13
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Originally posted by Desi # 1
He will not attack your son with a stick. If he does he going to jail for assault.
law of physics does not help.
if he hits then no mater what happens after the fact but kid is already hurt ...
law does not deter
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Originally posted by Desi # 1
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Originally posted by Jaimataji
we live in a semi detached house in misissauga. we have annoying neighbours. the problems is that they come to and threaten my son who plays basket ball in our drive way usually in the evening for an hour or so. when we try to talk to him, he starts shouting, swearing and says that our son cant play. this is definately not tolerable. we are so tensed that if we are work and if he does something to my son( might attack with some hockey stick or something), is there any suggestion?
Tell him to screw off and play every evening with your son. If you try to be nice nice, he will give you all the shit in the world. He will not attack your son with a stick. If he does he going to jail for assault.
This is as good as saying " Jai mata di bol ke Chadd jao "
possible only if I was in small town in India or on road in big city :-) .... India kee freedom kaa jawaab nahi !
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Originally posted by san-hugo
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Originally posted by Desi # 1
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Originally posted by Jaimataji
we live in a semi detached house in misissauga. we have annoying neighbours. the problems is that they come to and threaten my son who plays basket ball in our drive way usually in the evening for an hour or so. when we try to talk to him, he starts shouting, swearing and says that our son cant play. this is definately not tolerable. we are so tensed that if we are work and if he does something to my son( might attack with some hockey stick or something), is there any suggestion?
Tell him to screw off and play every evening with your son. If you try to be nice nice, he will give you all the shit in the world. He will not attack your son with a stick. If he does he going to jail for assault.
This is as good as saying " Jai mata di bol ke Chadd jao "
possible only if I was in small town in India or on road in big city :-) .... India kee freedom kaa jawaab nahi !
The definition of freedom is bit complex here. One is criminal offence freedom. Other is political freedom. Certainly in Canada , political freedom is available. But not the criminal freedom. So one can voice on quebec etc issues. But one cannot do any criminal activity. Law will catch you
In India, due to castes/elitism. A certain liberty to do criminal offences are allowed. Slap a poor person, or take over land /house etc. BUT India gives no political freedom. Moist etc are fear a lot from law. As Law or system catches them
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Originally posted by ashedfc
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True..
For this case, I would suggest to deal with more mutual understanding.
Playing BB is good, but you also want to make sure not to disturb anyone. Sometimes, kids don't take that seriously. Respect others privacy. I don't see any reason why this matter cannot be resolved by talking it out.
Let your child play some different time. (or at a park or somewhere else) some kind of compromise will help. Going to the cop will/may complicate the issue (which seems very small as of now)
I disagree here.
If the kid is playing at midnight, I would say yes not to disturb. But during the day, it is their driveway, it is their right to do whatever they want to do without hurting somebody else.
Tomorrow, the neigbour will say starting to going to washroom in the night because I can hear water flushing. If that individual has a problem then I believe he should go and buy a detached house.
Going to cops is not a solution because for them they will register a complaint and do nothing unless they see blood drops on the driveway. In that a forensic team will come.
Don't be intimated if your neighbour can speak loudly.
I disagree here.
If the kid is playing at midnight, I would say yes not to disturb. But during the day, it is their driveway, it is their right to do whatever they want to do without hurting somebody else.
Tomorrow, the neigbour will say starting to going to washroom in the night because I can hear water flushing. If that individual has a problem then I believe he should go and buy a detached house.
Going to cops is not a solution because for them they will register a complaint and do nothing unless they see blood drops on the driveway. In that a forensic team will come.
Don't be intimated if your neighbour can speak loudly.
Is it a shared driveway? Is it very near to the neighbours house, so the ball could reasonably be expected to hit their house or create noise that would interupt the activity in their home? If so I would suggest finding a more private place he can play such as installing a net in the private back yard if you have one, or taking him to a nearby school yard or park with a net.
If its a noisy street and a private driveway he should keep playing. Stay polite with the neighbour no matter how much of a jerk he is. Tell your son what to say to him because young people can be rude when threatened and if this man does do anything you don't want him to be able to say it was provoked.
If you expect him to be violent you can contact the police but if he hasn't physically or vocally threatened violence against your son yet I doubt they will care. Even then they would just talk to him.
This is the type of thing we have to deal with living in close quarters. I didn't like my old neighbours loud shouting at his family all day, nor the sermons he delivered in French everyday but despite being offended I couldn't find a way to stop it. Your neighbour might not like your sons actions but probably has to deal, and you probably have to continue to deal with his complaints unless he explicitly threatens physical harm.
I'm so scared of getting bad neighbours in a Toronto semi or townhouse. If driveway usage is hard to figure out how do you negotiate repairs to the building?! I guess I'll find if I ever own anything...
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If I were you, I would take my kid to park for BB playing. Simple thing is, driveway is not a play ground, if playing annoys the neighbour, should look for alternative. There are rules and regulations for each individuals, try not to make simple issue or solution more complicate and complex. As a working parents, no one is ready to take unneccesory stress and tenson.
Law protects every one, no one has right to shouting, or swearing. If he did, he has broke the law, he could be charged with offence of verbal abuse, IF YOU WANT. If you worry just only 1% about safety of you or family, report to police asap.
If you don't want to take legal action, just report to police as notification as exactly the incident. Every thing will be on record and he will be warned by police and nailed down for inappropriate behaviour. Regardless of outcome of issue, your safety concern will be resolve same time.
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