Posted on: 30-05-14 15:55:45
SOME HAVE IT AND SOME DON'T.
TK hails from a very nice family and his family, I hear at that end, are well regarded and respected a lot in that area. I do reciprocate the same and I am a well wisher for all of them. Having gone through most of his postings and in the last few, where I do see he is into a lot of hot water, I find that he is unable to get out of it, and in his postings I do see, he is pleading for help. Also the loss of one Parent has gotten him down further and into the disturbed state of mind. Added to that now he is asking all of us how to go about leading a life of a forlorn single individual for the rest of his life, has become a laughing stock of the thread, as he does not know how to convey the separation that he has entered into, in which he has posted his current problems that he has gotten into.
All of the above are the observations from his postings here and seeing the adverse remarks from others here especially from all of those who always wait to take a pot shot at him, gave all of them an opportunity and for a few here, dig into him a little deeper.
I will naturally feel like wise to do it. But not knowing the situation that he is in and if he has gotten out of it, wonder if any one here can lend him a hand after the remarks from them as posters here.
When he says that there is a complaint against him and if it is with the police, then there will be a First Information Report lodged against him and if he got some bail to get out of the CELL. A situation, which I feel, is like getting into hot water with the local authorities.
After that asking for help in evaluating a job offer in Iran at Basrah, got me to think if he is escaping from that area by moving out completely, rather than doing the dodging of the people that he comes across daily. Looks like he dropped that idea and wants to do things in an alternate way and carry on in life right there and he opens up the next scenery that he has options to follow for his future.
Yes, all of this is in there and he cannot camouflage it even if he tried. All of the postings and especially of the moderator to read in between the lines and suggest that he seek some able help at his end nails it to the TEE.
Will he seek some help there or also disregard all of us here at the Canadian Desi who have chided him with our curt remarks and expulsion from this website, needs to be seen.
Till he opens upto us completely and gives us all a clear picture, I want to hold my comments. If he wants to return here seeking our help, I am sure we all will be there to give him a patient listening, and then decide if he merits all of this and then some.
Some times I feel that the life does deal a difficult hand and we are unable to play it with deftness and make it into a success with finesse and grace.
Some have it and some don't.
FH.
But you would be amazed with level of negativity inflicted on new professionals who migrate in search of a better life for their offsprings. He is certainly one of the person who wields greatest negativity and intention to shatter dreams of others to the extent that it has affected many (who succumbed his stupid arguments without knowing his intentions.
Any time he posts helping jobs, apartment, etc.., need to be tracked and get the suckers out of being walloped in.
Unlike many think he is doing it just out of his own misery, my stand is that he follows this as a mission to ruin people's aspirations.
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The cowards never started,
The weak died on the way,
Only the strong arrived.
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That was very interesting, AshwaniG....
I believe that TK thrives on attention (since positive is impossible - negative is acceptable - better than nothing).... He will disappear while being "accused/abused".... He usually carries on as if nothing happened... Hopefully, this behaviour is limited to trolling on the Internet......
The best way to deal with him would be to cut off his oxygen I.e. the attention given to him (ignoring him completely) or by maybe praising him.... That might throw him off a while but maybe we can have our own Munnabhai get well soon story...
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Originally posted by JRF
But you would be amazed with level of negativity inflicted on new professionals who migrate in search of a better life for their offsprings. He is certainly one of the person who wields greatest negativity and intention to shatter dreams of others to the extent that it has affected many (who succumbed his stupid arguments without knowing his intentions.
Any time he posts helping jobs, apartment, etc.., need to be tracked and get the suckers out of being walloped in.
Unlike many think he is doing it just out of his own misery, my stand is that he follows this as a mission to ruin people's aspirations.
What you call negativity is the real picture of Canadian immigration. What's wrong with calling spade a spade? I didn't have to struggle much, but there are others I see day in and night on the streets for whom the Canadian dream gone sour. Let's admit it, we have a prestige issues when he let perspective immigrants know about the soup-kitchens, community shelters, cheap Ikea food, etc. What if he said there are Gurdwaras and local Hindu temples, where you're offered free food 24x7? I am sure noone would've objected. I am not trying to be a devil's advocate here, but merely showing one part of the story is wrong, as do Canadian Govt. does. So, what's the harm in knowing that there are certain places where you can get a free/cheap food - just to keep it as a contingency plan? One doesn't want to go hungry in the days of struggle, I guess. I came to this country with only $250 in my pocket. Had it not for my uncle who gave me a place to live with an amazing food and respect/help all that I needed, who knows I would be vying for these free/cheap food myself. Knowing about an option is better than none, even if you don't avail.
Noone can shatter your dreams and aspirations than you yourself. If your will is that weak to be affected by someone else's negativity in this day and age of super-information and internet, then my dear friend you know it well as to who needs help. Everyone is responsible or his/her own actions and the results thereof.
Actually, we all need help out of our superiority complex.
As annoyed as I am at some of his absurd posts, I feel sorry for TK sometimes. The passing of a parent and a separation (assuming he posted this for himself) are deeply emotional life events and it is hard not to be empathetic.
That said, TK seems to live in some alternate reality world where actions, reactions and his perception and projection of both is exaggerated/twisted in a way that would make no sense to most people. It would likely turn most off. Which would then explain his affinity to the virtual world where readers express a range of reactions (both good and bad) without any real commitment/ramifications. Much better than being ignored or ridiculed in the real world, since a reaction is better than none.
TK - If you're reading this, the notion that people on CD or other places can help you with any meaningful advice on a serious matter like separation is ludicrous. Note the use of the word "meaningful". Instead, talk in person to people who know you much better and who you respect. Introspect and try to get your act together. Please cut the cord with CD and other forums, I think you need to spend more time in the real world. I sincerely wish you the best and hope you don't post here again, at least not for some duration of time until you figure out your direction.
Mod - I'd suggest locking this post, I know most here mean well but it does not feel right. If someone knows TK and would like to help with advice, please do so through private messages.
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Originally posted by BlueLobster
hope you don't post here again, at least not for some duration of time until you figure out your direction.
Funny! Instead of choosing to ignore if you don't want to respond, you're asking them to refrain from the site altogether - ludicrous or not.
What's next? Asking Mods/Admins to ban members if you don't like their posts? There are tens or hundreds of posts languishing on the left hand pane without any response. When you see TK's post, let it languish in there and die of its natural death, rather than feeling obligatory to respond. That's one rule of thumb in these online forums.
RTI - I like it.
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Originally posted by BlueLobster
hope you don't post here again, at least not for some duration of time until you figure out your direction.
Funny! Instead of choosing to ignore if you don't want to respond, you're asking them to refrain from the site altogether - ludicrous or not.
What's next? Asking Mods/Admins to ban members if you don't like their posts? There are tens or hundreds of posts languishing on the left hand pane without any response. When you see TK's post, let it languish in there and die of its natural death, rather than feeling obligatory to respond. That's one rule of thumb in these online forums.
RTI - I like it.
You've already done an outstanding job demonstrating your trouble in understanding/comprehending posts. Why put more effort to prove it all over again?
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