Excellent Post Shankaracharya. You've shard soem very good points...

Dowry and luxury marriage party on debt... It is a social menace..
I am hopeful, the current trend would some how restrain this.. But you know the Western Culture (Planted Culture in west which is not really western, but some big cosmetics, financial people devised it.) is invading home.. Drugs, Early Pregnancy, STDs.

I enjoy reading Indian History and History of my state (TN) too.. I am amazed to know the details about

1. "Kudavolai" - election sceme implemented 1500 years back.
2. "Kallanai" Dam built 1500 years ago..
3. Navigation skills of Chola, who managed to invade (I got to call that way) Malaisiya, Singapore, Indonesia and Thailand.... BTW Thai curries mostly taste like Curries made in Coastal Tamil Nadu..
4. Architecural supremacy.. Tanjore temple..

I still feel in terms architecture, Northern India was far advanced compared to the whole world.. eg., Somanathapuram temple with hanging Lingam without any strings ( I can explain if some one is interested to know about it)..
Impeccable architecture of Several temples in and around Orissa..

When Gori and Gajini invaded India, part from Gold and other valuables they looted, more than all they were literally shocked to see architecture of beautiful temples.. the next thing they did..they took all the architect and then built the city "Samarkand"..

Madhan and Sujatha are my favorite writers now.. I am really looking to take look at some of Jayakanthan's material.. Hope you had a chance..

Good to share interesting things..

- JRF..

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I dont understand the link between Tamil history and the topic of this thread...did I miss something? Shankar..ya and JRF, please enlighten...


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Originally posted by tamilkuravan

HEllo CD's,
THis is my problem.
In our culture (Tamil), I was born and brought up with the fact that men are the sole bread winners of the family and wife is to only raise kids.

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Originally posted by tamilkuravanTraditionally the money that the man got would be enough to run the family, pay for the man's family welfare, take care of the child, pay for the house loan and then save.

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Originally posted by tamilkuravan
When i came to canada and got married, i found that my salary was atleast $1000 less than my monthly expenses and i got the diffencial amount from my wife (my parents still donot know that). I feel very ashamed and i am really very angry with the Canadian govt. that it has not done enough to provide for good paying jobs to a professional immigrant.

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Originally posted by tamilkuravan
My question is , have other CD members come acroiss such a situation? and how do they handle it. Do parents approve of getting money from your wife to run the family?

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Originally posted by tamilkuravanMature answers only please.

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Originally posted by tamilkuravan
Sidenote : My wife also bought me the car that i drive in valued at $8.5K (with tax)

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Chandresh

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Chandresh, your post is best.
Be man for wife but dog in front of parents and can quote" I did not like dowry but my parent took it, it's culture we donot speak in front of parents".

Hi TK,

My thoughts on this are

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"In our culture (Tamil), I was born and brought up with the fact that men are the sole bread winners of the family and wife is to only raise kids."

A man is supposed to bring home the bacon. In any species the females are attracted to the strongest among the males. For any species its only the fittest that survive and a fitter male is the one who goes out and hunts either an animal for food or in modern times brings home enough money to feed his mate (wife) and brood. Evolution has played a major role in our behaviour and it is for this reason that women are attracted to a muscular tanned young male and they get repulsed by flabby males who have white and pink skin tones.

In todays materialistic world women crave for presents and other comforts too. I know a couple of Canadian women who got seperated because they were earning more money than their husbands. Both of them did not have kids and they did manage to find a boyfriend within a month. One is living in with her current boyfriend and the other lady keeps changing her partners frequently because she believes in the more the merrier.

A traditional Indian woman might not resort to such drastic measures but she may nag her husband endlessy and make life miserable for him. The poor guy will loose all his confidence and suffer from depression.

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"When i came to canada and got married, i found that my salary was atleast $1000 less than my monthly expenses and i got the diffencial amount from my wife (my parents still donot know that). I feel very ashamed and i am really very angry with the Canadian govt. that it has not done enough to provide for good paying jobs to a professional immigrant."

You have mentioned in one of your posts that you wake up late on the weekends and hence don't shower or brush your teeth. Since you have such a wonderful family why don't you spend more time on the weekends with your daughter instead of roaming around and searching for free food? I am sure your wife will appreciate it more and consider you as a doting father.

Regards,

Nikhil

LOL!

Chandresh...I love it!!! That is really creative. You certainly got into the character. I cannot decide which made me laugh more...not touching the wife part or selling the car and walking/black spot on culture part

I think TK should add another 10k/year to his cdn govt compensation amount because it has placed him in a position of such abject shamefullness.

I think Chandreshs post needs to be made into a sticky . Again, good one LOL

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You have mentioned in one of your posts that you wake up late on the weekends and hence don't shower or brush your teeth. Since you have such a wonderful family why don't you spend more time on the weekends with your daughter instead of roaming around and searching for free food? I am sure your wife will appreciate it more and consider you as a doting father.

Regards,

Nikhil

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