TK's Reply ->
Chandresh ji,
Thanks for editing the post.
I did not think that it was appropriate for me to send a PM to you to edit your post and not that i was not courteous or what. BL (as i know) is the one who decides on which posts / language of post should be posted on CD site. Also when i wrote to BL, i told him that i found certain sentences to be objectionable and if he agreed with me. At the first reply, he did not find anything objectionable.And so the second time, i took the particular sentence and told him that that particular sentence could be misinterupted in a demeaning way. I also take this oppertunity to thank BL for his efforts. I sent the PM to BL since he is also the head moderator. I once again thank you for editing the post.
Many donot find my posts irritating, esp. people who see Canada as a place where their professional talents are wasted.. Well, as someone said, if you find my post irritating, ignore them or send a PM to me me and i will edit my post or repremand me. But it is not decent to directly or indirectly insult my family who are in no way connected to this forum. OTOH, i find many of your posts contradictory and the same as what you told of my posts but never tried to poke my nose into your posts. The only post of yours that i replied was when you said that IT people and people related to the construction field were in good jobs and i asked you about how you got the opinion that people in the construction field were doing better and you did not reply to me.
And Chandreshji, When did i say that i belived the tradition of females to sit at home and raise a family? I only said that i was ashamed to accept money from my wife to run the family, though i was a professional and in a full time job in Canada. I am against Dowry but due to certain reasons which i donot want to make public, was not able to prevent my family from taking dowry. Another question also comes into effect in this situation. Should i respect my parents's wishes or my wife's wishes during marriage time? I donot want to dig deeper in this subject since CD is not the platform to air the subject.
Anyway, i leave all this behind me and hope to contibute to CD in a more positive way.
Thanks to everyone who have felt pain in not seeing my posts often.
I am back in a full fledged but positive way.

TK
Sidenote : Chandreshji, I thank you also for taking the time from your busy schedule at vancouver to see your accounts PM and edit the objectionable post in a magnanimous manner and for helping to keep the decorum of the forum to its highest standards.
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TK's Original Quote
HEllo CD's,
THis is my problem.
In our culture (Tamil), I was born and brought up with the fact that men are the sole bread winners of the family and wife is to only raise kids.When i came to canada and got married, i found that my salary was atleast $1000 less than my monthly expenses and i got the diffencial amount from my wife (my parents still donot know that). I feel very ashamed and i am really very angry with the Canadian govt. that it has not done enough to provide for good paying jobs to a professional immigrant.
End of TK's quote
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TK's reply -> Chandreshji, with reference to the statement that i made in the first paragraph of this post i wish to clarify the following :
50 to time unknown years ago (as i know), in our culture, women did not work since there was no work at all for them at those times except raising up kids. In no place did i say that I WANTED it to be the same. My mother had worked as a tamil teacher before marriage and so i would be a hypocrite if i HAD said that i belived that women should not work. and in the next part of my quote , you will find exactly what i was talking about and that i was not angry with our tamil tradition, nor my wife working but only against the CANADIAN GOVERNMENT, because it could not make me feed my family with just one salary even though i am working 7 days a week, 12 hrs a day (incl. today, Easter Sunday and i am a christian)
Thanks for the understanding in advance.

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I am a Gents and not a Ladies.

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Originally posted by tamilkuravan

i am working 7 days a week, 12 hrs a day (incl. today, Easter Sunday and i am a christian)

Don’t worry TK, your efforts shall be remembered by mankind

Thy name Disclaimer King shall be uttered with the same reverence as Martin Luther King

Blessed indeed are the souls who live in bliss in houses designed by you

Disclaimer King thou name shall be immortalized

From a humble desi,

Nikhil