The preach is back !.
A recent incidence has changed my outlook in life.
My colleague of 6 years who used to share with me all the office gossips and general news everyday was complaining to me on a Friday that he was working too hard and needed a vacation.
He had sold his condo and bought a detached home in central mississauga for 600,000 was working his butt off to pay the mortgage. His wife was a housewife and his kids are in grade 12 and 10. His aged parents were living with him.
As long he was in the condo he went skiing with his family every season, followed by gambling trips to Las Vegas. He also had Saturday morning 18 hole golf game.
Once he moved into the detached home everything stopped to pay for the home.
I said bye to him on Friday and as he did not show up to work on Monday morning we enquired to our boss. We learnt that he had felt dizzy and had collapsed in the bathroom while shaving and was rushed to Trilliumhealthcenter. They learnt that he had a Brain hemorrhage and was in coma.
The family begged the doctors to operate to which the doctors flatly refused.
He was in come for nearly 3 weeks and died in the hospital.
He as 50 years old.
The moral of the story is " live life as it is the last day on earth" .
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Sunny Leone a true Canadian DESI now back in India !.
That's sad! Really unfortunate, to say the least. I am sorry for your and the family's loss.
Often, in pursuit of 'bigger and better', we forgo the tiny happiness that matter more in life. Examples, like leaving office on time to be with your family and enjoy time in the evening.
Just keep accumulating wealth and when it comes to using it all, either it is left to the kids or somehow meet the same fate as this unfortunate friend of yours. I have seen so many incidences of rich relatives that died before they start seeing the fruit of their accumulated wealth in their late 50s. One of them was my dad's first cousin, who worked his ass off his entire life and when eventually he built the house of his dreams met with an accident last year, when he was not even 60. Another one, a living example is a friend of mine who is getting fatter by the day, leaves office late just so he could unmortgage his $600,000 house as soon as possible.
Why people mortgage their life for bigger house, and especially kids' weddings is out of my tiny/minuscule/low IQ mind. Kids education and your own happiness 'right now' coupled with a nest egg should be the utmost priority, in my opinion.
It's sad, but do we ever learn? Please simplify your life, as it's entirely in our own hands. There's no super or hidden power that could guarantee it.
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Originally posted by Vandematram
The preach is back !.
A recent incidence has changed my outlook in life.
My colleague of 6 years who used to share with me all the office gossips and general news everyday was complaining to me on a Friday that he was working too hard and needed a vacation.
He had sold his condo and bought a detached home in central mississauga for 600,000 was working his butt off to pay the mortgage. His wife was a housewife and his kids are in grade 12 and 10. His aged parents were living with him.
As long he was in the condo he went skiing with his family every season, followed by gambling trips to Las Vegas. He also had Saturday morning 18 hole golf game.
Once he moved into the detached home everything stopped to pay for the home.
I said bye to him on Friday and as he did not show up to work on Monday morning we enquired to our boss. We learnt that he had felt dizzy and had collapsed in the bathroom while shaving and was rushed to Trilliumhealthcenter. They learnt that he had a Brain hemorrhage and was in coma.
The family begged the doctors to operate to which the doctors flatly refused.
He was in come for nearly 3 weeks and died in the hospital.
He as 50 years old.
The moral of the story is " live life as it is the last day on earth" .
Well, you just wrote how you felt. After all, this is a public forum where we often write how we feel or perceive a thing, this isn't a place to publish a counsel.
Anyhow, as you grow older you are ( at least I am ) seeing more and more shocking things happening to people around, one day it could happen to us, no body can stop. But almost all of us are seeded with the ability to forget or switch to back burner as we move on unless in case of an offshoot.
Upgrading a house or car ( I did recently), I just drew my own baseline. Told wife in case fate hits the fan, worse come worse we lose everything we have and can always squeeze in to basics (many understand the semantics behind this in this country, the atmosphere is conducive enough). But on the other hand, things continue to go well, may be a matter 5-10 years, there could be a decent savings sitting with me plus had the moments enjoyed.
I guess, it is very acceptable to have resources to survive up to six months in case the tap stops.
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The cowards never started,
The weak died on the way,
Only the strong arrived.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_yK1i9cLAMM
Thats really sad to hear.
We all sometimes push ourself too much.
Chhotaa kar ke dekhiye jeevan kaa vistaar
aankhon bhar aakaash hai, baahon bhar sansaar
Leke tan ke naap ko, ghoomay basti gaanv
har chaadar ke gher se, baahar nikalay paanv
छोटा कर के देखिए जीवन का विस्तार
आंखों भर आकाश है, बाहों भर संसार
लेके तन के नाप को, घूमे बस्ती गाँव
हर चादर के घेर से, बाहर निकले पाँव
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DELHI INDIAN
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Originally posted by febpreet
That's sad! Really unfortunate, to say the least. I am sorry for your and the family's loss.
Often, in pursuit of 'bigger and better', we forgo the tiny happiness that matter more in life. Examples, like leaving office on time to be with your family and enjoy time in the evening.
Just keep accumulating wealth and when it comes to using it all, either it is left to the kids or somehow meet the same fate as this unfortunate friend of yours. I have seen so many incidences of rich relatives that died before they start seeing the fruit of their accumulated wealth in their late 50s. One of them was my dad's first cousin, who worked his ass off his entire life and when eventually he built the house of his dreams met with an accident last year, when he was not even 60. Another one, a living example is a friend of mine who is getting fatter by the day, leaves office late just so he could unmortgage his $600,000 house as soon as possible.
Why people mortgage their life for bigger house, and especially kids' weddings is out of my tiny/minuscule/low IQ mind. Kids education and your own happiness 'right now' coupled with a nest egg should be the utmost priority, in my opinion.
It's sad, but do we ever learn? Please simplify your life, as it's entirely in our own hands. There's no super or hidden power that could guarantee it.
VM
Sorry to hear about your friend's early demise.
Could you please a bit more info, if not personal. Was it the hard work that caused this medical condition? Medical opinion is that we tend to age more slowly and live longer when we work hard.
The cardiologist whom I meet every 6 months at Apollo is one of the busiest persons. Not only he gives consultation to OPs like me, but is unable to sit for more than half an hour at a stretch having to go on rounds attending to patients inside.
Asked him does he not feel stressed? He said that he was absolutely fine and felt no tension. He says that he enjoyed his work very much. Think that is the key to good health and long life.
Medical doctors are generally thin and are not over weight. More than others they seem to be aware of what excess food and sedentary life style does to our body.
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