I'm trying to work this love marriage out that we had 4 yrs ago but nothing is working for me and my lifes becoming a mess and don't want to sit here all my life with him thinking he can always control my life and on the other hand I still don't want to hurt him. and most of all I have a beautiful son and it drives me crazy to think of the questions i will have to answer to if i leave and seperate him from his dad i don't need to hear Marriage is not a joke cause i know that's why two yrs knowing that eventually i will break i still kept on going but i don't know how to get it clear without taking a dramatic step....I tried to talk to him several times but he thinks after a couple hours everythings okie dokie what should i do???

Im sorry you are going through this.
Its also not quite clear what your husband is doing/has done? Can you please be a bit more specific?

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