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Originally posted by DELHI INDIAN
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Originally posted by Fido
Last time when we met , I shared with him that the peace I get when being with him is unparalleled ..... being together with someone whom you have known as a child and who does not have any vested interest ......... can some times bring more satisfaction that money can buy.....
Who finds a friend finds a treasure !! ... a different kind of success.
Totally agree.
I feel so relax and satisfied when I talk to my old friends back in India. I have grown with them and know them for past 30-35 years. They know each and everything about me and vice versa. That relationship and satisfaction no one can buy. I have made several friends here but feel something is missing. They all only talk about money, house, job etc and to a surprise some of them talk about weekly flyers discounts. LOL.
I have seen people change a lot when they come out of India.
There is no end to material expectations. It keeps on increasing every day. When I was in school, I used to think I only need a scooter and my life will be heaven. Once I bought scooter after few months I started thinking of Maruti 800....I worked day and night to get Maruti 800 and thought will be happiest person once I get that and that would be end of my requirement. But my expectations and greed kept on increasing and I just kept running for big car, big house, highly paid job etc etc
KHABAR THEE KE MANZIL NAHI HAI KAHI
LEKIN HUMKO CHALNA THA CHALTE RAHE
KHILONE BANAYE, BAHALTE RAHE
What I am starting to realize now that there is no end to this race. All I need is "DO WAQT KEE ROTI AUR RAHNE KA MAKAAN, HEALTH, HAPPY FAMILY AND TRUE FRIENDS". Paisa kam hee sahi, ghar chota hee sahi par waqt to mile.
In a complete agreement.
My Grandfather bought our Delhi home in 1950s. He was in Defense Services and quite contented with his life. Throughout life, his motto was simple. He used to come home from work, watched a bit of TV (DD) with the family, spent time with us kids, and narrated stories from his youth/adolescence. When we grew up, he made a point to always help me with my homework. Since, my elementary education was not in English medium, he took charge of my English language learning at home itself in addition to other subjects. When we grew up and stood on our own feet, although we feel quite indebted to the home he left us with, but more so the values and education, the time he used to spend, and the command of whatever English language I know of today. I left my Delhi home to Canada, but will never leave the values he imbibed me with and that would help me with leading a quality/content-full life.
If kids are worthy and truly deserving 'Laayak', then making multiple properties and leaving money make little sense than the values you can impart them with. The latter drives your generations. If kids are able, they achieve higher education, and eventually get settled and earn their own money. Why worry?
The gist is the same - make money for your family so they don't have to beg and borrow, but don't delve yourself deeper in the cobwebs of money making. You need to have time to enjoy the money you're making as well. As I said earlier as well, if you're able to do both, then salutes to you. You're my Hero (not the Salman Khan type
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Though we are digressing from the topic but I note some fallacies here .
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Originally posted by happywoman36
For Do wagt ki roti, rahane ko makan etc etc..... Do u need to send ur wife to work and save?? Women have enough on their plates looking after home front and children, their education and rearing. Men expect women to be superwomen doing job + home front. When I was small, some ladies used to work part-time coz they had more children but nobody expected/forced women of the family to work nor were dependent on their salary to run house.
No one expects women to run the house .... But yes a joint running of the house as much a family is not a bad thing .. it promotes equality .... Both the partners should contribute equally towards the family .. There are lots of working couples who do this esp here in Canada .
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Originally posted by happywoman36
My father made a home after retirement without taking loan after rearing 6 children. My parents gave importance to education and carried their duties and responsibilities in a right way. Discipline, respect and love started frm home. Today, children get all these affection frm child care coz man is not capable of taking his responsibilites of rearing 1-2 children let alone 5-6 children.
For one who says man is not capable of sustaining his children ... as many as they may be ... even today ??? I know families where there are 4 children and one earning member ....
And yet I know couples who each earns $400K per anum and still both work ... Go figure ...
We are lucky here that we have excellent child care facilities or nannies available who would take adequate care of your kids at fraction of what you could earn ...plus the child care tax exemption that the Govt provides.
Heard from a lady some years back these words stuck ... ' My child would respect me more when he observes that I work as he grows older '
Working is not a burden - it is also a means of achieving and extending your potential besides giving back to the society what you have learned over the years , getting money is another aspect of it.
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Fido.
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Posted on: 07-05-15 11:19:37
Location: God's own country
Posted on: 07-05-15 11:19:37
Please,
Let us leave this thread to the original topic.
Kindly take your conversations out on a PM please.
Murali
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I am a Gents and not a Ladies.
I don't think if you are qualified and capable , you 'need to be asked' to work .It should come from inside and without distinguishing whether you are a man or a woman .
Children are not mature at this age but yes when they grow up , I feel based on personal experience that they would respect their parents more if they worked ... And this applies more in case the woman is helping in finances as much as the man is helping in house chores.
Reminded of what a 'IT Lecturer in her country' and an 'IT Recruiter here' once told me - ' I did not want to be a stone around my husband's neck so I decided to start working as a recruiter here ... I admired her.
Ultimately it is not a man or a woman distinction ..In my opinion , both should contribute as much as possible towards the family.
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Fido.
I agree with TK ... This is definitely a digression and merits another discussion and thread ... no more post from me.
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Fido.
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Originally posted by happywoman36
reminded me of this reading.
A man was sick and tired
of going to work every day
while his wife stayed home.
He wanted her to see
what he went through so he prayed:
'Dear Lord:
I go to work every day and put
in 8 hours while my wife
merely stays at home.
I want her to know what
I go through
So, please allow her body to
switch with mine for a day.
God, in his infinite wisdom,
granted the man's wish.
The next morning, sure enough,
the man awoke as a woman...
he arose, cooked breakfast
for his mate,
awakened the kids,
set out their school clothes,
fed them breakfast,
packed their lunches,
drove them to school,
came home and picked
up the dry cleaning,
took it to the cleaners
and stopped at the bank
to make a deposit,
went grocery shopping,
then drove home to put
away the groceries.
Then it was already 1 PM
and he hurried to make the beds,
do the laundry, vacuum,
dust, sweep and mop
the kitchen floor,
ran to the school to pick up
the kids and got into an argument
with them on the way home,
set out milk and cookies and
got the kids organized to do
their homework.
Then set up the ironing board
and watched TV while he
did the ironing.
At 4:30 he began peeling
potatoes and washing
vegetables for salad,
breaded the pork chops
and snapped
fresh beans for supper.
After supper,
he cleaned the kitchen,
ran the dishwasher,
folded laundry,
bathed the kids and put
them to bed.
At 9 PM he was exhausted
and, though his daily chores
weren't finished, he went to
bed where he was expected to
make love, which he managed
to get through without complaint.
The next morning, he awoke
and immediately knelt by the
bed and said: -
Lord, I don't know what
I was thinking.
I was so wrong to envy my
wife's being able to stay
home all day
Please, Oh! Please,
let us trade back.. Amen!'
The Lord, in his infinite wisdom, replied:
"My son, I feel you have
learned your lesson and
I will be happy to change
things back to the way
they were.
But you'll have to wait
nine months, though.
You got pregnant last night"
Just don't want to demean women that do all that, and really do not want to start the gender war. I love women in my household and in general
. But, for a moment, do you seriously believe women that stay home do all that in a given day? Men these days share many responsibilities. I know I do. In majority of the households, Vacuum, laundry, grocery, ironing, folding clothes , wholesome cleaning are done over the weekend. People are using Dishwasher so frequently these days, so there goes the constant bickering about dirty dishes in the sink. Bank deposits have also become easier with online banking (phone camera), so you do not need to go to the Bank everyday. For majority of couples, Sex is also not that regular due to the work-day exhaustion. Cooking part? I agree.
It's not that bad staying home these days, if you ask me. Trust me, I am willing to trade HAPPILY
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Comedian Bill Burr on motherhood, funny stuff.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hitc8haEu_g" rel="nofollow">LINK
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