Posted on: 30-08-05 13:06:06
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but she don't listen, rather she fought with me and told me that i am noone to interfere in her life,
She is right. Factually speaking, no one has the right to interfere in her life.
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she is still trusting the guy who lied to her, but guy told her that he lied to her coz he love her so much and he was scared he's gonna lose her by telling the truth.
And she believes him? Further proof that she is really dumb.
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guy said he will get the divorce as his wife want the house and he iwll give the house to her. is it possible???
Why should the wife settle only for the house? She will take everything he has got and more. This idiot will be sucked dry and if your cousin believes otherwise, she is a fool.
He lied earlier because he thought he would lose her if he told the truth. How does she know that he is not lying again? Maybe he is giving this story only because he wants to have the cake and also eat it.
Further, does the boyfriend have kids? If yes, then ask your cousin how much responsible will she be for the damage to their lives. She will be branded as a homebreaker and will eventually lose a lot more than she will gain.
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From what it looks like it is a classic case of
Pyaar insaan ko andha bana deta hai,
If I were in your position I would do my best to dissuade her into marrying the guy. Whether I would remain best friends or not I wouldn't care,My immediate concern would be getting her out of this mess.
But on the other hand if the guy gets his act straight before marriage(as in getting the divorce and settling all the relevant affairs that go with it) then I dont see why they should not be together. Just ask your sister/friend to only marry or for that matter even meet him when he gets everything sorted out first.
In a situation like this I believe it is your duty to help her see better coz if you dont do all you can your guilty conscience will bite you for a long time if she is miserable after the marriage.
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Try to convince her to postpone the marriage atleast for a year. It isstill better that you tell her parents. Right now her brain may be clouded and she may get angry towards you. But, in the long run, she may thank you also.
A woman's point of view.
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HOPE
thanks all of you for your advices, but i am still confused. other thing i forgot to mention that guy don't have any kids. also he buy the condo for her, and now they are spending most of the time in condo, she do everything for him (except physical relationship as she told me), cook for him, clean and spend most of time with him. even she moved some of her stuff there.
do you think after she gets this close to him, she will be able to come out of this and guy agreed her to go back home and get marry coming month. i don't understand how to stop her from doing this. anyone plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
One would imagine that you’d pose this question on an ‘agony aunt’ forum, rather than on one that is primarily used by immigrants.
Unless of course, you’re having some fun….
crenshaw, no offence, but i wish you are in this situation and then tell me if you will have fun
i think this category is about issues of day to day life in canada which includes the problems that we face here. i don't think i am wasting anyone and mine time here. rather i really appreciate everyone for their advice.
crenshaw if you don't like it, pls don't read it. thanks
