Aare aursamjdarabhi,

Apun khali joking maring, kya?

BKB

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I dont see why some people are suggesting you go and talk to this guy (with beer and all..).

No, Please do not do that. You are not at fault. He is.

End of story for the moment.

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you may be right, mercury6, it may not be the best thing to do, but the alternative is surely worse. remember that wisernow must live beside him. dreaming up insults to throw at this guy, etc is not a constructive solution (not that you advise this, though some do). he must find an answer to live beside the guy without daily conflict. we're talking about someone's living space: you know how awful it is when you have a problem and home and there is nowhere to go.

calling the police may be the ultimate solution, but as i said, this is like 'dropping the nuke'. once you do this, you cannot go back and you have to prepare yourself for the consequences (constant harassment, phone calls, veiled threats, etc).... and who wants this. you may win the battle... but lose the war, if you know what i mean.

forget about who's right or wrong in this case... confront the guy and find a solution together... and thank god he doesn't have a motorcycle.

In my maiden week long stay @ Toranto attended a small get 2 gether of some punjabi friend who had brought a house @ York who had a smilar expereince 2 relate ---- Seems his white neighbour had complained 2 the Police abt high volumes @ some of his social gatherings for the 2nd time .

And the cops had come and found everything in order .But r friend wud think twice now b4 raising the volume now on .

This guy has acted unreasonably . Try & talk it with him on sure grounds asking him his problem and informing that u need 2 watch ur TV . This is "pure neighbourly" ettiquettes. Try n talk with him as Chris suggested .

If he doesnt act friendly inform the Supervisor and the cops as a pre emptive measure and stay cool . Thats the right thing 2 do also . Be friendly and civil but dont live it down .

BUT FIRST ASSESS UNBIASEDLY IF UR VOLUME IS ACTUALLY HIGH .

Manasvi .

Wisernow,
You know the situation better, but with what you have narrated so far , if i were in yr situation

1. i'd put a written complaint with the supervisor and mention about racial slurs in it . atleast this way you would have something in writing . if this guy bothers you , you will already have the first complaint to buildup on or even take it further to the police if you really really have to.


2. Take a good hard look at your home theatre system . It seems you live in an apratment complex not very good sound barriers . Is it the right place for a home theatre ? I live in an apartmrent too but do not plan to buy one till i have my own independent place.

3. However crude and wrong your tattoooed naighbour was, no one would like to bang the wall and knock on your door unless he is really being disturbed. Wether he sleeps in his apartment or does whatever he wants , if noise from your system goes into his place , it is disturbance. If he brings a similar home theatre and plays heavy metal at volumes that reach your apartment ....wont you complain as `well?

Goodluck and hope you handle it well.

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chris,

I would talk to him if it was anything but the racial slurs....if you talk to him you know what he will think......I dont need to tell you.


I personally think One trip by BKB should do the trick.
(and he gets a new client too. WIN - WIN situation)

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Mishtar India

However crude and wrong your tattoooed naighbour was, no one would like to bang the wall and knock on your door unless he is really being disturbed. Wether he sleeps in his apartment or does whatever he wants , if noise from your system goes into his place , it is disturbance. If he brings a similar home theatre and plays heavy metal at volumes that reach your apartment ....wont you complain as `well?

Above quote by you

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FYI, there are certain people who just for fun sake, bug you, if you are brown,black, yellow. I was living in one such apartment /condo building ( I of course split from there after a while). Whether the noise is bugging him or not, the person will just bang on your door or wall to bug you. Some people are made like that. I am not suggesting the person next door to you is like that, but he might be. Try the Mahatma Gandhi route as others have pointed out, if that don't work out, beat the livin' daylights out of him- sale ka dhulai karo!
While at that condo, I always stood my ground so much so that people actually after a while didn't mess with me nor my family. Even the super and the manager were shit scared of me, not that I am a scary fellow, but anytime anybody messes with me or my family 'cos we are brown, it makes me fighting mad!
Another FYI, if the person next door played some heavy metal like Motorhead, Judas priest, Metallica or anything along those lines, I would tell him to pump up the volume- anyway, I git yer drift on that pal!
Please note wiser now, it is good to know the laws as set down and as explained by Teja- who seems like a guy who plays by the books- but when it comes down to the nitty gritty- people tend not to play by it. from speeding tickets thru to improper after hours trading to murder, it all happens even though the law says it shouldn't. I ain't suggesting murder by a long shot, but stand your ground and if he calls you names call him right back. I am sure you will be more familiar with harsher versions of munji cake, swamp honky and canucklehead.

BKB

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