I believe that Canadian Citizens shouldn't go abroad to country like India, Pakistan, China, UK, etc. to get married. I am finding that more and more foreigners are using these Canadian Citizens to marry them for their own benefit. A friend of mine went to Shanghai, China went 8 months ago and now after coming here to Canada, she's ready to leave him heartbroken, and settle in Toronto, where her relatives are waiting for her.

Many will marry to come here to work and earn money, only to send money back to their own country to their family. Many will also marry to eventually bring their parents to Canada, USA, etc. By marrying an NRI, it doesn't mean that the girls parents will be sponsored here eventually. The NRI married the girl, not the parents, theire's no nutual agreement to bring the parents to Canada/USA as part of the marriage agreement. Some will marry you, then leave after getting the Health Card and SIN number. There are other \\\"hidden agendas\\\", so I urge you that you be careful if you go abroad.

Indian people are very selfish. Nowadays, even parents encourage their children to marry the NRI, so that they can settle in Canada, USA, etc. They'll marry you and be good to you, as long as you do what they tell you. If these girls don't get what they want, they will cause problems. All a guy wants in life is for his wife to love her back with pure love and devotion, but sometimes these \\\"hidden agendas\\\" can trap you. If you're going to marry someone, marry that person out of the goodness of your heart.

I am only writing this, so that you are aware of this, and take the time to know the person you will marry. Many depressing situations have occured, and I don't want others to experience such deception and betrayal. I am sure there are people in this forum who can both sides of the issues and be honest about it. Anyone who knows or has faith in God, know the Lord is present in every atom of this universe and nothing in this world will get unnoticed. There are consequences and rewards for every deed.

Unfortunately, situations like the above occur.

AND, on the same token, there are also Citizen/PR grooms/brides marrying from other countries and exploiting their spouses with the threat of immigration, although, it may be minimal in the case of Canada than the US (since US immigration places greater demand on depending on spouses' for their own immigration status security).

Maybe it's because the attitude of marriage among such individuals is more materialistic than anything else?

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Not only that, you are still financially responsible upto three years after they dump you!!

http://www.torontosun.com/News/Canada/2006/06/25/1652168-sun.html

Bride left broke by alien husband

Dumped Canadian wife still financially responsible for him even though he conned her
By MICHELE MANDEL

Cindy thought she had found her soulmate, the man of her dreams, a father to her young daughter.

The Toronto accountant had him met over the Internet, introduced by mutual friends. Theirs was a long distance relationship -- Eduardo lived in Cuba where he was manager of a department store -- but they spoke every day and she flew in often to visit him. When he proposed after seven months, Cindy truly believed their love was forever.

They married in Havana on Dec. 14, 2004. In their wedding photo, the dark and handsome groom hugs her close as the beautiful blonde bride beams with joy.

The 33-year-old sits alone in her East York apartment, barely able to glance at those photos of a mirage.

FILING PAPERS

She spent the next 15 months filing all the paper work to bring her husband here. She admits to a few nagging doubts; she had heard the horror stories of marriage scams. He assured her that those cases involved Cubans who worked in the hotels in hopes of snaring vulnerable Canadian tourists. He was different. He really loved her and if she wanted, they could make a life together in Cuba.

But when Cindy actually considered that offer, Eduardo suddenly backpedalled. Her daughter would have to attend an international school in Havana, he said, and where would they get the expensive tuition? His argument made sense, and so she continued to sponsor him here, sending immigration proof of their marriage, photos of the wedding, evidence of their daily correspondence.

Approved at last, Eduardo arrived here March 10, and was promptly given a Canadian social insurance number, a health card and permanent residency.

Less than three months later, he was gone.

Three weeks ago, he pulled Cindy back into bed to cuddle before she left for work. It had not been an easy adjustment, she admits. He seemed cold and distant and constantly demanding. Why hadn't she completed his resume? Why was he finding it so difficult to get a job? Why wasn't she sending more money home to his mother in Cuba?

Still, Cindy assumed it was just a natural rough patch. When he kissed her goodbye that morning and told her he loved her, she believed things were getting better.

When she couldn't reach him through the day, something made her leave work early and rush home.

Eduardo had disappeared. She says her 30-year-old groom took his suitcase, clothes and every gift of jewelry and perfume he had ever given her. He turned their wedding photo face down and left her only way to reach him -- his cellphone -- behind.

There was no note, no explanation, nothing.

He not only abandoned her, but the scoundrel abandoned her daughter as well. He had always picked her up from the bus stop after school. But not this day. If Cindy hadn't come home early, her 10-year-old would have been left alone on the street.

\"To say I was completely blindsided is an absolute understatement,\" she says softly.

Cindy called her loving mother-in-law in Havana. \"She was as cold as hell. They got what they wanted. Now he can sponsor his mom and whoever else he wants,\" she says bitterly. \"I'm positive it was all planned from the start.\"

That became even more clear after she checked his cellphone records and discovered that Eduardo had been calling a Toronto number three times a day. It belongs to his \"former\" Cuban girlfriend who was recently sponsored here by her husband. \"He played his game very well.\"

She has since met many women scammed by foreigners looking for a ticket to Canada. After all, we make it so easy. Unlike many other countries that require that the marriage last three years before they will hand over a permanent residents' card, Canada gives the sponsored spouse immediate permanent status.

\"Immigration were very sweet,\" Cindy says. \"They said he is a resident now. Regardless of what he did to get here, he has his card and there is nothing they can do.\"

STILL RESPONSIBLE

Every sympathetic government official offered the same reminder: she is still financially responsible for him.

Because the betrayal and the heartache are just initial blows. In the fine print of her sponsorship application, Cindy agreed that if he turns to any social assistance in the next three years, she is on the hook to repay the government in full -- even if they have to garnish her wages.

This duped bride has already lost her entire life savings of $60,000 on this romance. \"I don't have any money left to pay for his wonderful new life in Canada,\" she worries. \"I have been left with an empty heart, the inability to eat, the shock that the past 2 1/2 years of my life were a big lie, an empty bank account, and a daughter who is traumatized.\"

Now she also faces the frightening prospect of being destitute, while he laughs all the way to the welfare lines.

\"The law needs to change,\" she insists. \"Why should he still be protected and allowed to stay here when he clearly broke the only reason he was approved to live in Canada?\"

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India Canada Bhai-Bhai

This story from the Toronto Sun is very similar to mine, and it is happening to many other people also. Everyone is afraid to report this, out of fear and embarassment. My wife came here and left me within days also. Nobody knows this feeling, until you actually experience it.

No one wants to see these things happen to any other person, unless they are as cruel as those frauds themselves. I would ask that, we as human beings, help out in this good cause, and do our best to put a stop to these types of organized crimes. Thid could happen to someone that you may care about or love. Please visit this URL and sign the online petition (very quick process):

http://www.PetitionOnline.com/CA10090

Immigration Canada are very irresponsible. I am not saying that because of my bitter experience. They are well aware of the abuse that goes on with the Immigration System for years and years, however they don't do anything about it, untim the media really gets on them. They have also shattered the life of many qualified and educated Canadians:

http://www.notcanada.com

by advertising under false pretenses. They are very irresponsible and hide behind the curtain.

Please forward to others, and bring out this awareness to others. Your opinion counts. No one wants to go through this type of experience. Please treat all these cases, as if it was your very own family member. Here are some other similar links:

http://www.cbc.ca/story/canada/national/2006/06/08/bcmarriage.html?ref=rss

http://www.nriinternet.com/Marriages/Spouses_run_after_getting_immigration/INDEX.htm

http://www.fraudmarriage.com

http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/1126648634527_2/?hub=CTVNewsAt11

http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20060303/WFIVE_immigration_060303/20060417?hub=WFive

There are always two sides to every story. A lot of girls have been exploited by NRI's who have used their NRI status to dupe them.

http://www.india-today.com/itoday/12101998/society.html

So bad is the situation that i recently read on some website that many Indian girls are now flatly refusing to marry NRI's. If this trend continues, we don't have to worry about anything as none of us unmarried NRi's will anyway find a girl willing to marry us!

They went abroad seeking wedded bliss. Now they say their marriages were a fraud

http://www.theglobeandmail.com//servlet/story/LAC.20060729.MARRIAGEFRAUD29/TPStory/National/?pageRequested=all&print=true


Marriage frauds destabilizing Indo-Canadians

http://us.rediff.com/news/2006/jul/29canada.htm?q=np&file=.htm?headline='Marriage~frauds~destabilizing~Indo-Canadians'

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