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Originally posted by mkannuri
thanks frnd for the correction...the point is ...u got the point...lol...
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anyway i was taking this on easy note as this topic is not helping to any new immigrants.
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I dont think one would need an adivse on this as the decision is purely rely on the individual intentions/temptations.
Ok my dear frnd,
initially i thought of not responding to your post, but it looks like i need to clear few things as this thread is sidetracking.
1>what is there to discuss in this..i dont understand how would it benefit other CD's in this forum with such personal issues bringing here, where the decisions can be taken by the individuals according to their circumstances.
My analysis on this is simple..
a>If the OP is not happy in his marriage, then simply get over with it and start a new life/with new partner or stay single (i feel this is ethical)
b>If the OP is happy in his marriage, but he come across some other person in his life ..Under this situtationl the OP should decide what's his intentions
i>Is it a true love/past life connection/soul mate..bla bla..
then get out of his marriage and start new life with new partner and ofcourse face the liabilities of old partner and live happy untill another partner comes again in his life and the cycle goes (i feel this is unethical)
OR
ii>If its just midlife crisis/infactuation/lust/unexpected opportunity
then just leave it or go ahead with one night stand and come back to normal life with good/bad feeling about the whole episode.
There is nothing to be discussed here unless its complicated as i have seen some examples my self which are bit of complex as the heart struggles with head. even then OP can take a decision based on his character/morality
ex1>You got arranged marriage even after you had a love story and the past lover is back in to your life ........
ex2>You got arranged marriage, your past lover came into your life again with some pitty conditions(failed marriage or waiting for you for ever..bla..bla)
ex3>You are married and one rainy day you and you new partner had a moment and now she is pregnent and she is forcing you to declare as a father..bla bla)
there are endless situations in life and many more movies that came out with the possible outcomes...
hence its the OP that has to take a decision instead of discussing in public forums about his personal glitches.
I can simply shut my mouth...but could not stop myself as its not leading to any usefull informaiton to others and ontopofit it might lead to a wrong direction to the OP if more people suggested on thing.
well let me leave this here and hope the OP will settle the issue peacefully.
cheers
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Originally posted by mkannuri
....what is there to discuss in this..i dont understand how would it benefit other CD's in this forum with such personal issues bringing here, where the decisions can be taken by the individuals according to their circumstances.
...but could not stop myself as its not leading to any usefull informaiton to others
My friend came straight from his work and read all the responses (while we were having beer). He was not at all amused. Then came the stunner! I asked him if he wanted to share her name with me if he was comfortable. He coolly said that I knew her. So I started scratching my head wondering who she was. Seeing my inability to think properly, he mentioned the name. I was shocked. This I never expected. We know her for more than five years. She’s a wonderful person and I have lot of respect for her. She has come to our place twice for tea , as I remember. My friend openly said that he has kept her very high on the pedestal above his wife. His eyes are wide open and sparkling when he talks about her. I have the feeling that he has fallen in love with her. I am not surprised. The lady is like that, very likable. Anyone knowing her will respect her. Somewhere in the back of mind I was thinking “great catch” but I know that’s not the right thing for him. I wasso shocked that I ddid not know what to tell him. I think he understood my predicament and left after a beer.
Looking back, I wish he had kept this to himself as its a private issue.
KM
Your friend might have fallen in love with that lady, but same may not be the case at the her end. It could be one way traffic, so no need to pull your hair unless you have the complete picture.
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My friend came straight from his work and read all the responses (while we were having beer). He was not at all amused. Then came the stunner! I asked him if he wanted to share her name with me if he was comfortable. He coolly said that I knew her. So I started scratching my head wondering who she was. Seeing my inability to think properly, he mentioned the name. I was shocked. This I never expected. We know her for more than five years. She’s a wonderful person and I have lot of respect for her. She has come to our place twice for tea , as I remember. My friend openly said that he has kept her very high on the pedestal above his wife. His eyes are wide open and sparkling when he talks about her. I have the feeling that he has fallen in love with her. I am not surprised. The lady is like that, very likable. Anyone knowing her will respect her. Somewhere in the back of mind I was thinking “great catch” but I know that’s not the right thing for him. I wasso shocked that I ddid not know what to tell him. I think he understood my predicament and left after a beer.
Looking back, I wish he had kept this to himself as its a private issue.
KM
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