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KumarM   
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Post ID: #PID Posted on: 20-05-10 08:06:53

Two of my friends, for mer roommates from graduate school are married to locals. One friend is in US and the other in Europe. Both are in their late 40’s. Both have PhD and have good jobs, have children,,etc., basically doing well.

Now in the past couple of months I feel that both are longing for India and regretting what they did. I don’t judge them. Its their lives. I am touch in with them almost every fortnight. Now they are citing the differences. Both are south Indians. E.g. he wants to have rice and sambar, wife wants sausage. Wives does not want to visit India. I have been trying to get the guys talk to each other. They are reluctant, but its their decision. They dont know each other. I have told them my plans from next year. Both are seriously thinking, as I felt, to move to India in the next 2-4 yrs. They are citing lot of differences in culture (clash of it may be), lifestyle, etc. May be the age is catching up. When they were in their early 30s they felt really good (I lost touch with them for nearly 15 years, my bad).

Any exp you have seen, please share. I want to know if its isolated cases or lot of desis have it in that type of situations.

Km



meghal   
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Post ID: #PID Posted on: 20-05-10 10:05:13

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Originally posted by KumarM

Now they are citing the differences. Both are south Indians. E.g. he wants to have rice and sambar, wife wants sausage. Wives does not want to visit India. I have been trying to get the guys talk to each other. They are reluctant, but its their decision. They dont know each other. I have told them my plans from next year. Both are seriously thinking, as I felt, to move to India in the next 2-4 yrs. They are citing lot of differences in culture (clash of it may be), lifestyle, etc. May be the age is catching up. When they were in their early 30s they felt really good (I lost touch with them for nearly 15 years, my bad).

Km



Maybe they were thinking with some other part of their anatomy ;) . But I am surprised that even after staying for such a long time, they could not make that connection to the country of their residence. IMO, if they married in their 30s, they must have been mature enough to know the differences in the culture.

Even a person like Meghnad Desai marries a British lady, divorces her and marries Madhu Kishwar in his 60s.

So it might be interesting to see if one's thought process change as one ages.



gopalpai   
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Post ID: #PID Posted on: 20-05-10 10:36:38

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GoldFinger   
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Post ID: #PID Posted on: 20-05-10 11:38:32

Quote:
Originally posted by gopalpai

http://www.expatinterviews.com/india/danielle-barkhouse.html



For every person who wants to go back to India, there are thousand others who want to get into Canada. Take a look at the first comment on the article in terrible English. :)

dear madam i rea ur story thanks for for ur commands
becuase ur thinking india is good countyry
thanks
madam this is muthusarvanan age 26 iam living in chennai in nungabakkam near railway station
iam working as in hospital i completed my master degree in M.S.W IAM im intrested to work ur wountry if ther is nay chance to work in live ther if u have any idea reply me madam
thanks
with regards



KumarM   
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Post ID: #PID Posted on: 20-05-10 11:57:46

Quote:
Originally posted by gopalpai
http://www.expatinterviews.com/india/danielle-barkhouse.html</font>


Thanks to the SMS generation in India, everything is curtailed. Adding to it is the bad English. Is that message showing desperation? I dont know. Hope the lady did not read the message.

KM



indiarocks   
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Post ID: #PID Posted on: 20-05-10 12:08:19

IMO, at the end of the day, its your life, your health, your peace of mind that is paramount and what should matter the most whilst making a decision. Don't go about asking everyone, it will only leave your more confused. Don't worry what the world thinks or says, take the decision you think is right and be prepared to live with the consequences. Dig deep inside and see what makes YOU most happy and go with that. What you consider important in life, might not necessarily be important to someone else and vice-versa.



dimple2001   
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Post ID: #PID Posted on: 20-05-10 14:01:10

Quote:
Originally posted by GoldFinger

dear madam i rea ur story thanks for for ur commands
becuase ur thinking india is good countyry
thanks
madam this is muthusarvanan age 26 iam living in chennai in nungabakkam near railway station
iam working as in hospital i completed my master degree in M.S.W IAM im intrested to work ur wountry if ther is nay chance to work in live ther if u have any idea reply me madam
thanks
with regards



I read it too. Keeps me entertained :)

He says, ".....is there nay chance to work.....". I think he wrote his own prophecy. Anyway, I am sure the author of that article took it in stride and humor as the rest of her experiences.


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