Posted on: 15-06-05 07:40:30
Dear rajiv_20031
The solution to your problem is very simple :
You have to choose between living with Father and Living in Canada.
This is more a personal issue.
Good Luck
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Some people here are very cynical, if they are not in position to help then they should not anyone here.
Er..are you sure you have a complete meaningful sentence there? What I "should not anyone here"?
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This forum is to help someone who needs genuine guidance.
What "guidance" or help does this guy want? Please read his post and tell me what exactly does he want?
His posts are only an expression of his diffiulty in making a choice! He wants to come, or rather is being forced by his "school going" children as he claims, but is not able to make up his mind because he does not want to leave his father alone.
And surprisingly this dilemma is bothering him NOW!! What had he been thinking all this while since he applied for immigration?
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Orginally posted by son-of-india
It is not for the persons who sounds like bad mom-in-laws in india who get pleasure in taunting their daughter in laws. And dio u sounds like them more or less
I seem to have touched a raw nerve there!
Now be honest, did you also leave your poor father, back home alone with no one to take care of him?? Hm? Hmm?
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Orginally posted by son-of-india
And if u cant solve the problem then please dont send ur replies here, you are not wanted here.
Who the are you to tell me what I am supposed to be doing here and whether I am wanted here or not??
Let me know when you have bought this board and I will certainly oblige you. Until then, just shut the up!
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Orginally posted by son-of-india
Many times in one's life, one has to take a decision which is very painful. Simply asking a person to shed the idea of immigration itself sounds rude.
What makes it sound rude? The dude is not able to make up his mind. He says he has two choices. If I pick one, what is so damned rude?
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Why a persons wants to immigrate....? the reason is best known to him. None has right to have any objection regarding this.
Who the hell is objecting to anyone's decision? Since he has posted something on a public message board, there is nothing wrong in asking him what was in his mind for all those years it took him to get his visa and what has happened now that he is getting the heeby-jeebies??
It's people like him, and you in defending him, that exhibit such selfish attitudes and irresponsibility towards parents, who should be ashamed!
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Who the are you to tell me what I am supposed to be doing here and whether I am wanted here or not??
Let me know when you have bought this board and I will certainly oblige you. Until then, just shut the up
hey bimbo.....you proved youself....that you are a real big asshole here.
i do not like to use your kind of language ...but man this really suits you.
You are indeed a big ASS HOLE
i applogize to other members for using this kind lang. here but sometimes it is must for person like this dude Dio
Dear Sir,
You are facing one of the biggest challenges in your life, so confusion is not unwarranted. Balancing past and future generations is a dilemma of current generation. Answers were very clear and straight in olden times. In choice between father and son, father was the obvious choice. Children have multiple choices always available to them throughout their lives.
You know the options better than anyone else so it is very rightly your personal decision.
However to act as a sounding board I have written following exercise:
As a simple case analysis, to an outsider, your options boil down to the following:
1. Forget about Canada, pursue your life in India.
2. Land here, get PR card, go back, put kids back in school. In due course God will show you the way.
3. Involve a near relative in caring for father, get back here, sponsor your father for temporary visa and take it from there. You cannot be cynical that visa will be refused. If it is refused you may have to follow the course 2. above.
4. You can come here, establish your wife and kids, go back for the needful. But your wife has to be brave to face it all.
5. Identify a live-in caregiver. Promise him/her that you will sponsor him/her as a live-in caregiver to Canada when you are established here and fulfill the promise. Sponsor your father as soon as possible, using temporary visas in interim.
6. It is not an option to abandon your father back home.
Remember where a problem is born, solution is born alongwith it.
I apologise for sometime sand-paper 
like response on this forum. However I really appreciate the personal involvement of people who take time to read your problem and convey their opinion in pure black and white. That luxury is not available in the West.
\"Someone who speaks the truth in a very straight way and criticises you, should always be welcome\" -Sant Kabir.
Best of luck.
In your confusion
1) Consider the cost of sponsoring a live in care giver in canada. And then paying him his canadian worth once he lands.
2) If your father is in fragile health consider the cost of any medical emergencies when he is here on visitors visa. No canadian health insurance will pay for his medical needs.
3) Consider the fact that the 24 hour flight may be tiring for him too.
4) Would you be able to forgive yourself if he has some problems during his travel or due to his travel.
5) Remember it is difficult to set one self up to a totally alien country when you are young and energitic so for a aged person it is even more.
6) Assuming you are very rich to bear all these expenses, I am not sure why you then want to come for canada. For sake of children I totally agree with others view on this forum about setting up family here quickly and return back in a very reasonble time and I am sure there would be enough places in India who would give a royal treatment to your father in your absence.
I do admire your thinking and caring for your father...
Best of Luck.....
rp
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