Posted on: 20-02-05 15:08:08
I noticed that in love marriages the couple quarrel a lot (sometimes to the extreme incl getting physical). In an arranged marriage mia bibi are under some pressure to compromise and be a good couple.
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Orginally posted by jago_desi
How about a live in relationship.....before love marriage
how about just living together without ever getting married?
i.e. live like a normal couple except formally gettign married. have children etc...
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Orginally posted by mercury6
how about just living together without ever getting married?
i.e. live like a normal couple except formally gettign married. have children etc...
Is that what you would do in your life, honestly?
If not, then why bring it up?
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You are just trying to start something here, aren't you
Not really.
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Is that what you would do in your life, honestly?
Yes.
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If not, then why bring it up?
See above.
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How about a live in relationship.....before love marriage
how about just living together without ever getting married?
i.e. live like a normal couple except formally gettign married. have children etc...
I believe in that becuase my marriage is a product of live in relationship. I am happy like any other marriage and probably we are able to give enough space to each other for the reason we are in habit of doing that.
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both are good in my opinion....arrange mariage good coz as Chandreshji rightly said...love blossoms as you get to know each other....but sometimes in our society...just to show to the society....couples in arrange marriage avoid the unwanted process of divorce.....not always though....as years go by....love really blossoms and one starts to accept the strange behavior of the significant other out of love and not just the adjustment....
love marriage is good as long as it is not out of infatuation but pure understanding and love between two friends who may have known each other for quite a many years.....and who would also know as to how the other person is reacting even in real life situations.....i.e. not just pretending to be a nicer person....I have seen many such couples....as someone rightly said arranged love marriages work real good....
but somehow...I can't understand the concept of "LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT"...
cheers
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What are your views on love marriage rather than arranged marriage? I think in today's world, love marriages should be accepted as long as they are willing to spend lifetime with eachother. I don't think it should matter if the boy has his career or not, as long he can secure the family's future. It matters how the person is from inside. One should go for who he/she is not what he/she has.
But i'd like to get views on this from all ages, as to arranged marriage still do exist in today's world, and is it better than love marriage?
Gujju chokri
Who says love marriages are not accepted?
And as to the point of the boy not having a career, there is just some conventional wisdom being applied by parents on the girl's behalf. Even in Canada, if a girl who is close to her parents tells them she's going to marry a guy who's a really nice guy but does not make any money, they will protest and caution her.
Its perfectly ok for parents to advise their kids on these matters, isn't it? What's wrong is when parents try to force their beliefs. And the same thing applies in arranged marriages as well. If the parents of a girl introduce her to a guy with the marriage intent, I don't see anything wrong with that. But it is upto the guy and the girl to figure out then whether they find eachother suitable as partners or not. And so long as parents don't try to force a decision, nothign wrong with it.
One of the biggest obstacles to marriage for women in North America seems to be the fact that they just can't seem to find the right guy. If their families assist in this endeavour, its actually a good thing isn't it? In fact, I think this trend, which is existent here as well, is on the rise as women become busier in their professional lives.
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