Hi NJ33,
In your very first sentence, you mention 'We live in a good area in Mumbai with my parents and life is smooth'.
Having known tons of Canadian desi's with similar lifestyles in India, my sincere and honest advice is, Please don't abandon that lifestyle and go abroad.
Grass always looks green on the other side of the fence. Distant mountains always look smooth. yada yada yada...
Yes, every one of those replies in the 'CD search' is real and from personal experience. They are not trying to hoodwink you.
If things don't workout as you planned, what will hurt you more is seeing the struggles your entire family undergoes as a result of your decision.
If you are still dead set on coming, please come by yourself first. Stay for couple of months and arrive at a decision.
Regards,
seenappa
Its hard to say where you would be happier. You just have to be in a place and make it work for you. If you are living in a nice area in mumbai and have a nice smooth life, hard to suggest you take the challenge of coming to canada which like moving to any new place requires money, patience, time, some social lonliness, hardship and learning things again from how to pump gas to how to buy a home.
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ONE BEDROOM FLAT...
WRITTEN BY AN INDIAN SOFTWARE ENGINEER...
A
Bitter Reality
As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in
Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the
land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA , it
was as if a dream had come true.
Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I
would be staying in this country for about Five years in which
time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India .
My father was a government employee and after his retirement,
the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.
I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling
homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and
speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone
cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and
pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange
rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.
Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have
only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within
these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight.
Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for
all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be
talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through
all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting
shorter I was forced to select one candidate.
In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get
married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays.. After
the marriage, it was time to return to USA , after giving some
money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after
them, we returned to USA .
My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she
started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India
increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our
savings started diminishing.
After two more years we started to
have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us
by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked
me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.
Every year I decide to go to India ... But part work part
monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting
India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a
message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I
couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India ... The
next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there
was no one to do the last rights the society members had done
whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed
away without seeing their grand children.
After couple more years passed away, much to my children's
dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down.
I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my
savings were short and the property prices had gone up during
all these years. I had to return to the USA ...
My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to
stay in India ... My 2 children and I returned to USA after
promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.
Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an
American and my son was happy living in USA ... I decided that
had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India ... I
had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a
well-developed locality..
Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is
for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife
has also left me and gone to the holy abode.
Sometimes
I wondered was it worth all this?
My father, even after staying in India ,
Had a house to his name and I too have
the same nothing more.
I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.
Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing.
This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these
children are losing their values and culture because of it. I
get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well
at least they remember me.
Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will
be performing my last rights, God Bless them.
But the question
still
remains 'was all this worth it?'
I am still searching for an answer..................!!!
START THINKING
IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???
LIFE IS BEYOND THIS .....DON'T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE ........
START LIVING IT .......
LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE .......
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The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
Mahatma Gandhi
why do I feel the above is fake. Just another guy rambling on the internet.
I came here 5 months ago,Iam from Andheri,Mumbai..I got a job in 5 days of landing..i also got one more job in 2 months after landing.I was doing 2 jobs for 15 days making 150$ a day..then my second job manager told me the project is getting delayed and told me that they dont need me..i am still doing my 1st job...but but..in all these 5 months i learnt that JOB is not all that you need here..you will feel lonely,doing all work by yourself..i started missing my parents,then I started to question myself do I need to go through all this..even 150$ per day doing 2 jobs is not good enough..its so stressful..everything is very expensive..if you have to lead a good lifestyle(thats why we come to canada right??) you have to make atleast 3,000$ a month after tax..in that money forget savings..live pay check to pay check..I was leading a king size life in india..own house(of course parents house)..in MUMBAI..Life in Mumbai is good..Local trains and crowds are a problem..but after coming here you will find lot of other problems..so dont move from one place to other place to escape problems..So finally after doing lot of thinking..iam returning back to mumbai..i lived here for 5 months..saw lot of places in Canada and America..i will go back to India and if things work out well for me(I have to find a job again now over there)..i would stay in India since the craze of abroad is gone for me..if i decide to come back it would be for doing masters by taking admission from India...that too iam not keen on coming back..(but yes u have option till 3 yrs )..But final verdict is if you have comfortble life in mumbai then be there..dont waste your money..try to make your life more comfortble by spending the money in Mumbai..I have lived my life in Mumbai..and we mumbaites find it very very difficult to adjust to any city in the world
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Posted on: 09-09-09 09:21:11
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Originally posted by vivek901I came here 5 months ago,Iam from Andheri,Mumbai..I got a job in 5 days of landing..i also got one more job in 2 months after landing.I was doing 2 jobs for 15 days making 150$ a day..then my second job manager told me the project is getting delayed and told me that they dont need me..i am still doing my 1st job...but but..in all these 5 months i learnt that JOB is not all that you need here..you will feel lonely,doing all work by yourself..i started missing my parents,then I started to question myself do I need to go through all this..even 150$ per day doing 2 jobs is not good enough..its so stressful..everything is very expensive..if you have to lead a good lifestyle(thats why we come to canada right??) you have to make atleast 3,000$ a month after taxd
Agreed !
It all depends on what you expect and what Canada has to offer / give you and if what it offers pleases you .
For example, if you have lead a very comfortable life in India (Good job, NO need for any real work, enjoyment), then you will find Canada very boring and esp. a CSR job as they will work you to death for $10 or $12 an hour. You canot even relax in the job as targets have to be met. Remember that this is Canada where one person does the job that 3-5 people are expected to do in India. Money is never easy here.
The best jobs are the ones held by Software engineers. They need not need to work hard at all. They can relax and their work load is very less (lesser than what it is in India). and that is why you find a lot of software engr's in Canada and tehy love the job and life in India. 90 % of CD members are software engineers.
Other people who love Canada would be :
1. Sucessful business men in Canada (there are also many failures)
2. Finance / Accountancy people
3. People selling insurance, Mortgage, house brokers and such (after a period of hard work).
4. people in poverty in India or degrees like ITI, BA English, BA History etc.. who can never make it in India
5. People of Higher caste who think that they are repressed in India. Those people are mainly smart and try to climb up the ladder in canada.
6. People with many girl children (they think that they can escape dowry in Canada).
7. People who are filthy rich in India but hate to see beggers on the roads, un clean roads, unclean food, dirty people, hot and sweaty climate, people all the time speaking vernacular language instead of English, seeing fat and obese and dark people on the road,corruption, politicians, rain, lack of infrastructure, costly fees in schools for children etc....
8. People who have children and who are afraid that they may not get admissions in the best schools of India based on reservation / low marks. In Canada, competition is less and students can get a OSAP loan. The onus is not on the parents to save money for education but more on students to earn for tehir education. so this makes a irresponsible parent more happy to immigrate to Canada
So in essence, it all boils down to what you can exploit in Canada.
To the OP, Unless you come down and experience stuff, it is pretty hard to find out. It is a catch 22 situation. Flight ticket to Canada and initial set up costs are prohibitive but then unless you come and see reality, there is no guarentee if you can suceed in the future.
Hope this helps.
Peace by TK
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Originally posted by tamilkuravan
6. People with many girl children (they think that they can escape dowry in Canada).
They 'think' they can escape
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